Neighbor kids god bothering
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AlohaChris wrote:If I could move, I would, but right now i cannot. I have talked with her about 'remaining silent', but I didn't teach her how to divert the conversation onto other topics. I'm concerned about teaching her an 'us vs. them' mentality, I'm trying to avoid doing so.
amkerman wrote:maybe I can offer something that might be of practical use and has the best interestes of your daughter in mind, rather than just looking out for one's particular ideologies and maintaining the status quo, which unfortunately, in America at least, has atheists being compared to theives and rapists, especially in deeply religious communities, which I would assume your part of Utah is.
I have 2 thoughts.
Thought 1 is that you allow your children to attend the church if they want and you go with them (Most likely they will not enjoy the experience). You remind them that you think it's all nonsense (or however you want to say it) that some people believe because it makes them feel good. Let them make their own decision. If they dont want to go to church anymore, great. If they do... well that's a whole new can of worms. Just pt your foot down I guess. Explain to your daughter that its not ok to lie to get what you want (that is if you actually believe that, maybe you think it is ok to lie to get what you want, just teach her whatever morals you want to teach her) and leave it at that.
Thought 2 is to talk to Carols parents and persuade them to allow their daughter to be friends with your daughter. Put their minds at ease and show them you are a good person/parent, and that your daughter is too.
Animavore wrote:Bah! Peace is over-rated. I never lie about my non-belief or mask my distain of religion. I've had about four friends told not to hang around with me any more by their parents. Their loss. Kids who listen to their parents orders are yellow-bellies anyway. Better off without.
Regina wrote:Animavore wrote:Bah! Peace is over-rated. I never lie about my non-belief or mask my distain of religion. I've had about four friends told not to hang around with me any more by their parents. Their loss. Kids who listen to their parents orders are yellow-bellies anyway. Better off without.
Look, I was a child. It wasn't about making my friends happy, but I was expected to go to Mass by my family, even when my parents didn't go themselves. Plus, I was still a believer (of sorts) at the time.
amkerman wrote:maybe I can offer something that might be of practical use and has the best interestes of your daughter in mind, rather than just looking out for one's particular ideologies and maintaining the status quo, which unfortunately, in America at least, has atheists being compared to theives and rapists, especially in deeply religious communities, which I would assume your part of Utah is.
I have 2 thoughts.
Thought 1 is that you allow your children to attend the church if they want and you go with them (Most likely they will not enjoy the experience). You remind them that you think it's all nonsense (or however you want to say it) that some people believe because it makes them feel good. Let them make their own decision. If they dont want to go to church anymore, great. If they do... well that's a whole new can of worms. Just pt your foot down I guess. Explain to your daughter that its not ok to lie to get what you want (that is if you actually believe that, maybe you think it is ok to lie to get what you want, just teach her whatever morals you want to teach her) and leave it at that.
Thought 2 is to talk to Carols parents and persuade them to allow their daughter to be friends with your daughter. Put their minds at ease and show them you are a good person/parent, and that your daughter is too.
Animavore wrote:Why would she want to know? I've never been to or care to go to a synagogue or mosque. It hasn't made a difference to my life not knowing what goes on in those places.
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