Seth wrote:
Sometimes waiting is not an option. My father's reaction to my paperclip experimentation was entirely appropriate and immediately necessary, and it had precisely the desired effect without any long-term ill effects at all.
I'll disagree.
Like disciplining animals, disciplining children requires immediacy of punishment,
Especially here. It does not have to be immediate, they're not dogs. And sometimes, depending on the situation, it can't be immediate.
so that the consequences are directly connected to the bad behavior.
Lets say a child was told not to climb a tree, but does it anyways. Said child falls, breaks an arm. That's the consequence. No need to "punish" (spank) him, he's already learned what the consequence was, and it was still connected to the bad behavior.
Even a very young child (let's say two) may still be able to know that certain consequences will be connected to certain bad behaviors when the punishment is not immediate.
Trying to have a rational discussion about bad behavior with an unrepentant four year old is merely going to cause the lesson to be lost entirely.
I'll disagree here as well. I've had great success with my two year old nephew by talking to him. No spanking was required, and he hasn't forgotten any of it.
If children were capable of making well-reasoned, thought-out decisions they wouldn't misbehave in the first place,
You're confusing the fact that sometimes children act out, with the idea that they must always be 100% rational. I know plenty of rational adults that sometimes act not so rational at times.
and the idea that one can always "reason" with a child is, generally speaking, an idea created by people who appear to have never actually raised children.
Hogwash. Plenty of parents have learned how to discipline their child without having to use violence.
Certainly there are many methods of discipline, and spanking should be reserved for serious or intractable misbehavior,
Or never at all. Even for serious behavior, it's not necessarily needed.
but it has to remain part of the arsenal of parents.
Sure, but that doesn't mean they ever have to actually use it.
You have not convinced me Seth. I still stand by my position I had already explained earlier in this thread. I still maintain that spanking is simply an bad habit. Cheers!