Parents warned kissing children on the lips is too sexual

Thomas Eshuis · #1 by **Thomas Eshuis** » Dec 12, 2017 3:01 pm

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/parents-warned-kissing-children-on-the-lips-is-too-sexual-and-could-confuse-them-10464862.html

A doctor has warned parents against kissing their children on the lips, arguing it is “too sexual”.

Many parents will see it as a simple sign of parental affection, but Dr Charlotte Reznick has warned the mouth is an erogenous zone which “can be stimulating” and subsequently cause confusion for children.

The author of ‘The Power of Your Child’s Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety Into Joy and Success’, told The Sun that children might associate kissing with sexual or romantic activity between parents and then wonder why their parents were engaging in the same activity with them too.

The suggestion has been derided by other child psychologists who say there is no harm in such displays of affection. Clinical psychologist Sally-Anne McCormack told the newspaper: “There is absolutely no way that kissing a young child on the lips is confusing for them in any way.

“That’s like saying breastfeeding is confusing. Some people might have issues with it, but it isn’t any more sexual than giving a baby a back rub.”

Rachel Bronwyn · #2 by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 12, 2017 5:32 pm

Oh, FFS.

I will admit virtually all my friends think it's weird that my family kiss on the mouth. I don't care.

Blackadder · #3 by **Blackadder** » Dec 12, 2017 8:03 pm

Dr Charlotte Reznick needs her vacuous head smacked against a wall.

Macdoc · #4 by **Macdoc** » Dec 12, 2017 8:07 pm

Bit yucky ...lipstick n all....bit age dependent too...Uncle Bertie snogging his 13 year old niece a tad dodgy.

I see no point in starting it at all...kids get all sorts of viruses

A mature 10 year getting bussed by her 7 year cuz on the mouth might lead to an epic smack down.

Macdoc · #5 by **Macdoc** » Dec 12, 2017 8:11 pm

Seriously tho ....I think too many adults take liberties in an intrusive way into kid's personal space.

One thing if the kid initiates ...quite another if it's the adult ....I really don't think kids should be obligated to put up with it.

Rachel Bronwyn · #6 by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 12, 2017 9:16 pm

The article isn't about violating children's personal space. It's about consentual kissing on the mouth between parents and kids. No physical affection a child doesn't consent to is acceptable.

I have kissed older male family members on the mouth my entire life. It's never been remotely sexual. I've never been confused by it. Why the only kissing on the mouth some people can think of his slurpy, tongue-y, lingering smooching, I don't know because it's most certainly not what people like me who kiss their family on the mouth engage in. My dad's a dude in his fifties. I date a lot of guys in their fifties. The kissing I do with my dad vs. my dates has NOTHING in common. People being unable to seperate kissing on the mouth and sex though is their problem, not mine. Unless parents are slipping their kid the tongue, they're not going to be "confused". If people are creeped out when I kiss my grandfather at the hospital, that's entirely their problem.

I also doubt there's an increased rate of viral illnesses amongst kids who kiss their parents on the mouth. I certainly never contracted oral herpes.

Macdoc · #7 by **Macdoc** » Dec 12, 2017 9:51 pm

all my friends think it's weird that my family kiss on the mouth.

I rest my case

“There is absolutely no way that kissing a young child on the lips is confusing for them in any way.

From the article - where is that limited to the child initiating ???

Fallible · #8 by **Fallible** » Dec 13, 2017 12:43 pm

Pff. We kiss on the mouth in our family. I kiss my daughter on the mouth, I am kissed by my relatives on the mouth. There is nothing sexual about it. The main problem for me is that the mouth must be completely dry, as a moist mouth makes me heave.

Teague · #9 by **Teague** » Dec 13, 2017 3:01 pm

Maybe Dr Charlotte Reznick finds it sexual - she should go on a pedo watch list just in case.

Teague · **#10** by **Teague** » Dec 13, 2017 3:03 pm

Fallible wrote:Pff. We kiss on the mouth in our family. I kiss my daughter on the mouth, I am kissed by my relatives on the mouth. There is nothing sexual about it. The main problem for me is that the mouth must be completely dry, as a moist mouth makes me heave.

Bread crumbs all over the lips makes it dry too but that would make me heave I think. What about if they have a bit of mustard on the corner or a zit right near the lip? What if you go to kiss them on the lips and only then notice the pimple do you quickly divert to the cheek? Doesn't that make things a bit awkward?

Rachel Bronwyn · **#11** by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 13, 2017 6:33 pm

No one in my family has ever tried to kiss me while sporting a mouth zit or residual food or wet lips. I imagine all those things would make matters awkward, yes. It's my family though. They wouldn't kiss me with a wet mouth and if they had some food or a zit I noticed at the last second, I'd tell them.

Macdoc · **#12** by **Macdoc** » Dec 13, 2017 6:35 pm

SafeAsMilk · **#13** by **SafeAsMilk** » Dec 13, 2017 6:35 pm

Nobody in my family kisses on the lips. I still don't think it's weird or sexual.

Rachel Bronwyn · **#14** by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 13, 2017 6:48 pm

We should really only be side-hugging our children. Those frontal hugs are much too sexual.

SafeAsMilk · **#15** by **SafeAsMilk** » Dec 13, 2017 6:49 pm

No hugging, hugging is for sissies. Begrudging nods and cowboy hat-tips only.

Rachel Bronwyn · **#16** by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 13, 2017 6:58 pm

Hat-tips sound a bit close to validating feelings. None of that between parents and kids, I say!

Mike_L · **#17** by **Mike_L** » Dec 13, 2017 7:11 pm

SafeAsMilk · **#18** by **SafeAsMilk** » Dec 13, 2017 7:28 pm

Rachel Bronwyn wrote:Hat-tips sound a bit close to validating feelings. None of that between parents and kids, I say!

One is allowed to shed one manly tear. One manly tear only.

Rachel Bronwyn · **#19** by **Rachel Bronwyn** » Dec 13, 2017 7:33 pm

In a lifetime.

Macdoc · **#20** by **Macdoc** » Dec 13, 2017 10:06 pm

My father had 8 brothers and sisters.....my mother 7.....you can figure how many nieces nephews and cousins resulted.....and most pious god bothers and kid botherers......not to mention odiferous grand parents ( no running water ) and McCoy level uncles n aunts in some cases,

Kissed on the lips ????

Fuck that

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