David Cameron has been accused of "ripping away" support from single parents, just hours after making a stinging attack on absent fathers.
The prime minister said "runaway dads" should be "stigmatised" in the same way as drink-drivers.
But charity Gingerbread said government proposals to charge those needing state help to obtain child maintenance would make life harder for lone parents...
melchior wrote:Paul G wrote:Erm, they're already shamed. It won't make them give a shit. What does he think will happen? How will they be shamed more than they already are? Public flogging?
How are they already shamed? There has always been plenty of 'shaming' of women are single mothers, but we never hear anything said about men who don't step up to their responsibilities.
Gallstones wrote:The delinquent father to my son was my husband. He owes more in child support than I owed when I assumed the mortgage on my house. He has never been denied visitation, but he only requests it when he needs our son to perform some job or other function that serves the father. This has been going on for 16 years.
Ironclad wrote:I have never known my father and from time to time it made me quite distressed when I thought about where he was, what he was like, why he was gone.. and that. Some years ago I discovered that he had disowned his mother when he found out that she and my mother were infrequently communicating, an attempt to allow me an avenue should I wish it; this really spun me out - now I felt he never ever wanted to know about me.
Things were difficult when I was smaller, we had no money and mother had a few relationship disasters that ranged from twattage to full-on violence. It's pretty hard on a kid growing up with little stability, without a father - not even an alienated/divorced father - this guy simply wanted nothing to do with me whatsoever.
At times I feel dread bitterness toward this 'man' and still some of that childhood confusion, which is why, occasionally, I ponder on this question: as a 42 year old man now (me) can I sue this guy? Can I track him down and force him to pay for... what? Neglect? Missing child support?
He must be 60 by now. Do I track him down and run crying into his hesitant arms? Do I track him down and smash his face in? Should I find him, shame him, fine him?? Questions questions..
I, unfortunately, agree with Cameron. But I understand the objections too.
Paul G wrote:Gallstones wrote:The delinquent father to my son was my husband. He owes more in child support than I owed when I assumed the mortgage on my house. He has never been denied visitation, but he only requests it when he needs our son to perform some job or other function that serves the father. This has been going on for 16 years.
Ironclad wrote:I have never known my father... this guy simply wanted nothing to do with me whatsoever.
maik wrote:What's the big deal? That Cameron said it on father's day?
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