Posted: Dec 07, 2017 12:30 pm
Saying ‘you shouldn’t have...’ doesn’t necessarily involve blaming the victim anyway. It’s just a way of acknowledging that a certain course of action was not healthy for or helpful to oneself. I shouldn’t have got myself involved in the latest spat between my mum and sister. I don’t blame myself for having done so, but I recognise it did not contribute towards my mental well-being.