Posted: Jun 20, 2011 3:50 pm
I have never known my father and from time to time it made me quite distressed when I thought about where he was, what he was like, why he was gone.. and that. Some years ago I discovered that he had disowned his mother when he found out that she and my mother were infrequently communicating, an attempt to allow me an avenue should I wish it; this really spun me out - now I felt he never ever wanted to know about me.
Things were difficult when I was smaller, we had no money and mother had a few relationship disasters that ranged from twattage to full-on violence. It's pretty hard on a kid growing up with little stability, without a father - not even an alienated/divorced father - this guy simply wanted nothing to do with me whatsoever.
At times I feel dread bitterness toward this 'man' and still some of that childhood confusion, which is why, occasionally, I ponder on this question: as a 42 year old man now (me) can I sue this guy? Can I track him down and force him to pay for... what? Neglect? Missing child support?
He must be 60 by now. Do I track him down and run crying into his hesitant arms? Do I track him down and smash his face in? Should I find him, shame him, fine him?? Questions questions..
I, unfortunately, agree with Cameron. But I understand the objections too.
Things were difficult when I was smaller, we had no money and mother had a few relationship disasters that ranged from twattage to full-on violence. It's pretty hard on a kid growing up with little stability, without a father - not even an alienated/divorced father - this guy simply wanted nothing to do with me whatsoever.
At times I feel dread bitterness toward this 'man' and still some of that childhood confusion, which is why, occasionally, I ponder on this question: as a 42 year old man now (me) can I sue this guy? Can I track him down and force him to pay for... what? Neglect? Missing child support?
He must be 60 by now. Do I track him down and run crying into his hesitant arms? Do I track him down and smash his face in? Should I find him, shame him, fine him?? Questions questions..
I, unfortunately, agree with Cameron. But I understand the objections too.