Posted: Jan 12, 2012 10:09 pm
xtraordinaryevidence wrote:MoonLit wrote:Perhaps being passive aggressive towards them is another option; however it will seriously rub them the wrong way and can cause them to seek you out to also indirectly insult you. But for some, this is rather fun (I only do it to those I hate).
I agree with the rest of your post, but is this the best advice? Between passive-aggressive or straight forward, you should always go with straight forward, especially if you're trying to earn respect. I don't think inka will be taken seriously if she employs mind games.
Only doing it to those you hate reminds me of profiles of people who say "I'm a really nice person, until you get on my bad side. Then I turn into a bitch/prick". My first impression of people that say this is that it's just used as an excuse.
*I don't have that opinion of you by the way. I've read other posts of yours (so have more than a first impression) and I'm sure you don't mean it like that*
That's why I stated that it was just another option.
Some people have a much easier time dealing with others by being passive aggressive. 
JoeB wrote:les5f wrote:You do not get respect just for existing you have to earn it.
I disagree. In my opinion respect (and being treated respectfully) is something you should get by default, not something to be earned (in whatever way that might happen?).
It just seems weird to me that it's somehow ok not to treat someone respectfully, we're all humans after all.
I strongly disagree. You don't have to respect someone to be polite towards them. I think that more often than naught people confuse the word "respect" and use it in a manner when they really ought to be using the word "polite".
But that might just be my bias talking. I was in a situation where the word "respect" got thrown around so fucking much it lost any meaning.