Posted: Mar 31, 2021 10:44 am
by Animavore
When I gave up the final time, after trying other methods, I used the Darren Brown method.

The thing with giving up smoking is that we tend to treat it like a once and for all, deadlined thing. We say, From this point forth I will no longer have a cigarette, and turn it into this mad challenge, one which we will either succeed or fail at. We then treat breaking this promise we have made for ourselves as a failure, one we have already set ourselves up for when we declared our ultimatum. This way of giving up is just a load of unnecessary stress.

When I gave up the final time, as per advice in Derren Brown's book Happy (I think), I just didn't smoke. I didn't declare I was giving up, I didn't tell everyone I was done with cigarettes, I just didn't smoke.

Until I did.

Inevitably, after a few days, I started feeling really powerful urges. I tried to ignore them as much as possible but, and this is the important bit, if I did cave and had a cigarette, I treated it like it was no biggie. I'm an adult and I'll have a cigarette if I want. I didn't treat it like a failure, sure I never said I was quitting, and it's not a competition anyway. No problem. I went back to just not smoking. A day, four days, a couple of weeks, whatever.

Over time I just drifted away from them completely. I can't remember exactly when I last had a cigarette; I did smoke a joint with tobacco in it one day last year but I don't really count that. I don't feel any need to smoke at all now.

I can't say this will work for everyone and it's probably not the quick fix advice or solution in a bottle you were looking for, but unless you get in the right mind-frame for it and change how you view smoking it's not going to be easy to quit. All those patches and alternatives, they're not 'cures', they're just aides to help people get through giving up.