Posted: Oct 02, 2021 6:25 am
mindhack wrote:Thank you for sharing. I feel for you.
Thank you.
I'm not the most patient of people, sometimes more than just a little difficult to live with. There are things I'm rigid about that would irritate ordinary people, which is why I don't have real life friends, and when I do, I lose them because I accept I'm hard to love. For instance my son will put the mayonnaise bottle on the wrong shelf in the fridge, and he doesn't get why I ask him why it's so difficult to put it where I want it. Most people can't stand this kind of obsessiveness.
This thread came into my mind last night when I heard that someone in my extended family died this week. I suspect the person was depressed but not getting help. The signs, now with hindsight are a little obvious. The person went off away from home, something they've done quite frequently, as a "time out". The family couldn't ping the phone because it had run out of battery power by the time the person was found, dead. We're terribly sad about this, if it was suicide I wish I'd known about the depression, I'd have been there to support and possibly help it not happen. We don't know yet, will hear when the autopsy results come out.
The thing is that we don't expect people that age to die suddenly, and it's shocking when it does. I know this because I've lost a nephew and a niece (siblings) this way. The action caused my sister, their mother to lose her mind, and now she just sits waiting to die. She's almost 80.
People need to talk about death, as Piper explained about his dad. If you're aware of it coming, it makes the slow downhill process easier to handle, yet difficult at times when you think about the person they were before. On my Barry's birthday, my kids all said they can't get their heads around it. And to make it worse, no one believes he's 80 because he doesn't look like it. He's still tall and handsome, his back stoops forward a little and his walk is slow but he walks faster than I do, possibly because he's never fallen and broken his face.