Posted: Apr 05, 2010 9:20 am
Agree with others above, no matter how much it hurts thats it I think, he can't be in your house anymore. Certainly your children can't be subjected to this and neither should your wife.
Does he understand what he did? Has he shown any remorse for hurting your wife or previously when he's hurt your children?
If you have the time outside of family life to help this boy without depriving your kids and wife of time with you then I think one on one out of the house should be your only contact right now. Also I would get in direct contact with his social worker if you're not already, attend meetings/visits with your daughter etc. Does the social worker even know the full story, is your daughter passing these incidents on to him/her? How does your daughter react when you tell her about the incidents?
My sister has an in-law who has proved herself to be a lazy incompetent parent, with her 3 young children on social services radar and her 4th baby in hospital due to be taken in to foster care any day now. My sister and her other half (the babys uncle) are unable to take the child themselves but are thrashing out a deal at the moment with social services for them to be respite carers when the baby goes into foster care, giving them a reasonable amount of contact and hands on care. I'm reluctant to say your grandson should go into care but if it comes to it then it may be an option for your family.
Does he understand what he did? Has he shown any remorse for hurting your wife or previously when he's hurt your children?
If you have the time outside of family life to help this boy without depriving your kids and wife of time with you then I think one on one out of the house should be your only contact right now. Also I would get in direct contact with his social worker if you're not already, attend meetings/visits with your daughter etc. Does the social worker even know the full story, is your daughter passing these incidents on to him/her? How does your daughter react when you tell her about the incidents?
My sister has an in-law who has proved herself to be a lazy incompetent parent, with her 3 young children on social services radar and her 4th baby in hospital due to be taken in to foster care any day now. My sister and her other half (the babys uncle) are unable to take the child themselves but are thrashing out a deal at the moment with social services for them to be respite carers when the baby goes into foster care, giving them a reasonable amount of contact and hands on care. I'm reluctant to say your grandson should go into care but if it comes to it then it may be an option for your family.