Posted: Apr 05, 2010 9:38 am
z8000783 wrote:Paula1 wrote:Valden wrote:Binky wrote:Addendum: He stayed with us today, and scratched my daughters face and became unmanageable without kicking very hard at my wife or myself, he broke my wifes finger, (an eight hour visit to hospital), and my legs are black and blue. My two year old son who is very robust, will not play with him any more and is scared of him.
Why on earth did you allow him in your house in the first damn place?
I hope that now you'll not allow him to stay over until his parents get their shit together.
Yeah, got to agree with this, enoughs enough, this little boy needs help as does his mum
My feeling would be that the boy doesn't need any help, he is simply responding to circumstance laid before him.
The focus needs to be the Mother and the Father.
John
While the focus absolutely needs to be on the parents the child will need help, this child has obviously been damaged by his parents poor parenting skills and will almost certainly need help to overcome the damage
The child himself appears to have resorted to violence as a coping mechanism, this really needs to be addressed, he's not tiny anymore, he must be at school and if the violence causes him to be excluded from school it will then have a negative consequence on his education which, if left too long may never be reversed
It may well take more than a few parenting or therapy courses for mum to repair the psychological damage done to the child, this child is crying out for attention and has no idea how to obtain it in a healthy rewarding manner, this cannot be taught by a less than adequate mother