Posted: Jan 27, 2015 3:46 pm
Sendraks wrote:cavarka9 wrote: Its like giving tools to cut out nationalism/religion/family or choosing good irrespective of any social group one is part of and it did cut him of that, but has since come up with choosing the socially dominant group possible.
So, like a teenager, he's looked at a social group, decided he wants to be part of that group and seems to be operating under the assumption that "this can just happen."
How does he intend to go about achieving this goal?
He's going to need to get money from somewhere, which generally involves either luck or hard work.
He's going to have to find a way to be part of a different culture and adjust to the values of that culture.
You might make some headway about discussing his long term goals and how he intends to go about achieving them. The important thing is to keep asking questions and let him speak, don't criticise or gainsay his answers. Let him do the working out to grasp what lies in from of him. The key follow-up questions for you should always be along the lines of "and what then?" or "and how will you do that?"
Don't press him, if he doesn't have an answer just leave it. Leave a nice empty silence in which he can reflect on what he doesn't know.
Well good thoughts but its not that difficult, we do have family living in USA, he is expecting me to teach him math/science/computers, i told him most of what is required to become successful already, money from family.