Posted: Feb 25, 2011 1:11 pm
by CJ
Weaver wrote:My kids are stepchildren - I first encountered them at ages 10 and 13, so didn't experience this sort of thing.

And you're right, of course, I should have more patience with her imagined stories - I just want her to more clearly distinguish truth from fiction when she's telling us these tales.

Ah! I thought you were a little young to have grand children, I just assumed you and/or your kids had started rather young! So yes you are climbing a learning cliff. Bright kids have a wonderfully rich fantasy life and as you say the issue is not suppressing it but to just build an understanding in the child that crossing the boundary between real and imaginary is important and not to be mixed up. So 'tell me what happened today' should illicit a different response from 'tell me what you would have liked to have happened today.' And there is absolutly nothing wrong with helping a child understand the categories of 'real' and 'imagined'. A diary can be a great thing for a child and working with them to write it every day before bedtime allows one to guide the child in creating a factual document, while reading them a fairy story allows them to stretch their imagination. Good luck Granddad!