Posted: Oct 15, 2012 8:45 am
by Sendraks
Speaking in support of what other's have said here, sort yourself out to live independently first. If you can, get into a houseshare with friends or anyone looking for a lodger rather than go home after Uni. This keeps costs down and give you more space away from home.

What are you doing after you finish at Uni? Do you want to continue education or get out into the workforce? Either way, having some form of employment to keep you financially independent is a good idea.

I think you're right to be concerned for your siblings and honestly the best way I can think for you to help them is for you to show your parents you're capable of standing on your own two feet, while as Tuco suggested, also demonstrating the qualities they consider to be "good." If you can get out and live your own life, get your own space (and own place eventually), you can offer your siblings somewhere away from home to visit or (if worst comes to worst), a bolt hole once they're over 16 and need to get away from home.

You've clearly given your situation a lot of thought, not just for yourself but your brother's and sisters. I think you have a great chance to be a leader, to get out into the world and pave the way for your siblings to have even more opportunities than they have. You didn't have a big brother out in the world looking out for you, but you could do that for them and at the same time, live life your own way.