Posted: Jul 06, 2011 11:44 am
Fallible wrote:Matt, feeling a bit uncomfortable when alone in a lift at 4 am is not an overreaction. Add a man asking if you want to go back to his place and it becomes a bit more uncomfortable. It doesn't really matter what his intentions were, or what her 'nature' was (it's pure speculation to say that she would have reacted in exactly the same way wherever she had been anyway - I certainly would feel differently depending on the circumstances, and I certainly would feel uneasy in a similar situation). The simple point is that being a woman (hell, just a person) alone in a lift at 4 am can make one feel rather uneasy anyway, and it might be a good idea to have a bit of empathy, exhibit a bit of common sense, in such a situation.
But, what do women, like her, who get so easily upset expect? Of men? For them to be less forward, less horny, less direct? Many man are like that. And many women, as well. The men, of such nature, don't objectify women or consider them cheap youknowwhats, and women, of similar nature, don't consider such man jerks, but find them, and their personality rather attractive.
This woman didn't. For her, the guy was acting like a jerk (even though he wasn't being forceful in any way, and I'm, going to keep stressing this). Why was she reacting this way, because the guy was her opposite, in personality, in certain aspects. That's it. I do think the nature/personality of the individuals in these situation should be considered.
The place (elevator, closed space) and time (4am) are of no real importance, or wouldn't have been, but for the "victim's" nature. It could have been an office elevator at 8pm , after work, or in a booth (or whatever they're called) in a club, and the reaction of the woman would have been the same, because she still would have been approached by a complete stranger with obvious enough intentions. Had she been a more hot-blooded, bold, out-going...etc. individual she would not have felt uncomfortable, and consequently wouldn't have considered the guy a jerk and his behavior rude. But, because she wasn't, she complains about the situation and overreacts claiming she was objectified. Oh, please...
