Posted: Dec 19, 2015 8:37 pm
Hmmm. Surrepticious57, I say you are wrong. Specifically, I think you misunderstood what our host meant by " society does not allow one to take a step back and just be an observer." He is correct. In general, various elements in our society actually DEMAND that we take sides, or that we accept involvements. The only option allowed to those who continue to remain aloof, is to be discarded.
EvertVd: I have had some similar experiences to you. Possibly very similar. including the ages that problem times occurred in.
I'll toss out one thing that helped me progress, in case it helps you as well.
I came to the chance realization one day (after a lot of expensive therapy and decades of personal work), that DEPRESSION ITSELF, is an attempt to solve a problem. In a way, everything we do is such.
The "solution" that depression offers, is twofold: it removes the tremendous pressure we are under, by allowing us to stop fighting, and to instead blame our own very nature for our lack of relative success. At the same time, it rewards us, by retaining the implied declaration that OUR OWN JUDGEMENT of everything, is sound.
Once I recognized that I was making myself depressed, in order to accomplish one or the other of those goals, I found that I could choose whether or not to remain depressed. It didn't fix my overall problems, but it did re-empower me. I still get depressed, and occasionally wallow in the freedom depression provides. But I now do it more mindfully, and only allow myself to remain in that condition for as long as I can see that it's not damaging to my life in general. Sort of like a dark psychological vacation, with me deciding when to go home again.
I was able to get off my expensive medications, and now function much better overall.
EvertVd: I have had some similar experiences to you. Possibly very similar. including the ages that problem times occurred in.
I'll toss out one thing that helped me progress, in case it helps you as well.
I came to the chance realization one day (after a lot of expensive therapy and decades of personal work), that DEPRESSION ITSELF, is an attempt to solve a problem. In a way, everything we do is such.
The "solution" that depression offers, is twofold: it removes the tremendous pressure we are under, by allowing us to stop fighting, and to instead blame our own very nature for our lack of relative success. At the same time, it rewards us, by retaining the implied declaration that OUR OWN JUDGEMENT of everything, is sound.
Once I recognized that I was making myself depressed, in order to accomplish one or the other of those goals, I found that I could choose whether or not to remain depressed. It didn't fix my overall problems, but it did re-empower me. I still get depressed, and occasionally wallow in the freedom depression provides. But I now do it more mindfully, and only allow myself to remain in that condition for as long as I can see that it's not damaging to my life in general. Sort of like a dark psychological vacation, with me deciding when to go home again.
I was able to get off my expensive medications, and now function much better overall.