Posted: Jul 11, 2015 3:16 am
Thommo wrote:Oldskeptic wrote:She's making me think about internet bullying, and making a commitment to myself not to participate in it. I don't know that I have, but I have typed some pretty harsh things aimed at certain people. The young woman makes me want to take back some of them if I could.
As a community all we can do is enforce rules that we already have, such as the "don't discuss personal sexual issues" rule (although some have violated it and defended others who did, in the past) and frown upon our compatriots who insist on threads like the "hottest faces" (or whatever the fuck it's called) thread. We can also do whatever we can to not propagate unrealistic expectations of women (or men).
It's 100 Most Beautiful Faces: Who Are Your Top 10 Picks? in Social & Fun. I've recently submitted my top ten and see nothing wrong with it. If you care to check it out you'll notice that, as per the thread title, I only included images of faces. I don't see how that is promoting unrealistic expectations.
In the spirit of friendly censure:Oldskeptic wrote:Marylin Monroe
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was rather plump but is still recognized as very sexually attractive partly because her ratios were just right.
She wasn't. a 22 inch waist is not "plump", it's actually pretty "skinny" (this is barely larger than a scaled up barbie - regularly criticised for being "so thin she'd snap under he own body weight"). When we "defend" women with such expectations, we're actually loading on the problem. I'm persuaded that the myth of a golden age of men finding "plump" women with waists smaller than most women can ever dream of attractive is more harmful than beneficial.
Whatever her waist size I'm sticking with rather plump. And no matter what anyone says, women do aspire to look like attractive women in movies, television shows, and magazines, and they don't need any pressure from men or media to do it.
ETA: Not to mention that her ratios were recorded as being around 0.62-0.64, way below the "ideal" 0.7 ratio.
Close enough.