Posted: Jan 11, 2016 2:27 pm
by Fallible
Andrew4Handel wrote:I definitely psychologically struggle with my own parents motivation for having children which I feel like reiterating here now.

1) My mum knew my Dad had problems communicating with children before she married but went on to have six children with him

2) They believed in hell and damnation and that there children would be born corrupt sinners before they had them.

3) They weren't affectionate or positive

4) They were completely dictatorial and ignored anyone but their owns preferences.

5) They made us go to church several times a week without any choice and expected us to think act and believe exactly like them

They were allowed to do this based on the automatic right to have children.

I think there might be a case for saying maybe they shouldn't have had children, but one cannot put the genie back in the bottle. Also, I'd want to see what your siblings felt about their experience and about whether it was worth the life they have now, which I don't see how we can obtain. Certainly my view is that if you're not good with kids and you don't want to put any effort into making their lives enjoyable, it would be irresponsible to have any. However Andrew, we've been here before. Even you consider your continued life to be the best option, or you wouldn't be here.