Posted: Jan 12, 2016 12:14 am
by OlivierK
Scot Dutchy wrote:FFS who is talking about victorian methods. Children being seen and not heard is the way I think children should behave. How it is achieved does not have to be by any method. The thing here is somehow in the minds of certain individuals this immediately deduced as the victorian method. This happens often here by people who live in a very little world. Say anything to them that collides with that little world and bingo and they are on their high horses.

No, Scot, the usual cultural connotation of "children should be seen but not heard" is that of Victorian parenting methods:
What Does "Kids Should Be Seen & Not Heard" Mean?

The phrase that kids should be seen and not heard infers that a child's place is to be quiet and well-behaved. This was a widespread sentiment during the Victorian era of 1837 to 1901 when the typical family raised about a half dozen kids, points out Asa Briggs in her book "Victorian People: A Reassessment of Persons and Themes, 1851-67." According to the University of Liverpool, the idea that children shouldn't have a voice in their lives lingered well into the 20th century.

Victorian era values prescribed that every facet of a child's life should be governed by his parents or guardians, says the University of Liverpool. At the time, little distinction was made between children and property, and so there was no reason for children to speak in company, as they were expected to merely do as they were told without question.