Posted: May 10, 2013 12:27 am
jamest wrote:Those who abstain from loving to save grieving are choosing to live life in the shadow of death, where there is no lasting joy. Why would anyone abstain from finding a lasting joy in their all too-short lives?
More like; Why would anyone abstain from a fleeting joy in their all too-short lives?
And why, indeed? Personally I grab all the little joys I can and to hell with worrying about their durability. Because at the end of the day the hurts are just as fleeting as the joys - Unless you're the type of person who cant let go - And if you do find a joy that lasts in among all these other little joys, well all power to you. Serendipity has befallen you.
I can't agree with the OP that there is an advantage to not attaching one's self to people, that it will help one avoid heartache. To me 'heartache' is being alone without friends and lovers, lasting or not.
But if being alone is your thing then, I think obviously, you should embrace that and not feel that you have to be with someone because everyone else thinks that is how one should be. Ive often baulked at phrases like, "We all need somebody to love" myself. That's projection in my opinion.
But personally I've already lost and let some great women slip through my fingers because I'm such an arsehole and do not regret the pain nor the pleasure I had with them. And I will probably do it again.