Posted: Jun 16, 2013 2:16 pm
by I Punch Your Face
Thomas Eshuis wrote:
virphen wrote:
I Punch Your Face wrote:You can have friends of the opposite sex, but only under two possible conditions :

1) There's no attraction involved, or very little. But bear in mind that sometimes women see friendships in terms of their usefulness whereas men tend to value qualities, attributes and general companionship.
2) You're already doing the horizontal dance and you develop the friendship as time goes by. In other words, the friendship must be based on romance / intimacy and the natural dynamic between male and female.

Other than that, friendships between men and women are fake.

This is very much a case of "speak for yourself".

Indeed. In my experience the bolded bit is usually the other way around. Still an appeal to personal anecdote though.

Yes it's been my experience (observation) that mostly women's friendships aren't as sincere as men's. I'm not trying to convince anybody that this is universal (although I do think it is), rather I'm just expressing what I observe. If it's only my experience, fair enough, but it does strike me as awfully uncanny that it is also the way almost everyone I know sees it. And some of their friends too. Some of the harshest criticisms that I have heard about female-female friendships have come from women themselves, so it's not like I'm just pulling this out of thin air. There comes a point when anecdotal evidence builds to a point where you need to look at it seriously, and being politically correct doesn't help. It is what it is.