Posted: Oct 03, 2014 10:48 pm
by Spearthrower
Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, .....

This could be delicate but here goes.....

Are non homosexuals predisposed to being homophobic to some degree?

This is what I experience: when I witness two gay guys kissing, like in a movie or in public, I cringe. (I have no problem watching two lesbians kissing) I have nothing against any homosexual person and have friends and family members who are gay and I accept and socialise with them without any problems. It is only when the guys smooch that I have to turn away or close my eyes because my brain tells me "I'm not enjoying what I see".

I want to discuss this so that I can learn from it. Is it me or is this a general feeling that other hetrosexuals also experience.

My uninformed guess would be that it's an involuntary response you learned from witnessing someone close reacting that way a long, long time ago. I know lots of experiments have been done on phobic reactions to things like spiders showing that their first encounters are usually experiencing someone else's trauma.

I think many years ago I would have pulled a face too, but I've just had too many gay couple friends who were so sweet together I long since got used to it.

I've lived in Asian cultures too long, though - I find any overly enthusiastic public displays of affection to be somewhat disturbing, whatever the combination of genders.