Posted: Apr 26, 2016 5:52 pm
Thank you for the condolences, much appreciated. I had just seen him an hour before, and the person asking was really my mother. And, no, when people say 'say goodby', they mean what they say. I had no desire to see my brother's ex-body, it barely looked human and I had no desire to sere it in my memory anymore than it was already. I can understand people wanting to have a talk with the freshly deceased, or going to the grave, what I can't understand is how few think of what they are doing as symbolic. Or the catholic tradition of the pre-funeral, funeral-eve mass, I can't for the life of me remember what they call it, the body is right there up-front, center stage, open-coffin, so you can go kneel at it and talk? gawk? schadenfreude your ass off at it?, in all it's rotting-meat glory.