Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#61  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 02, 2018 10:13 pm

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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#62  Postby Cito di Pense » Apr 02, 2018 10:13 pm

Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


That's what it's like when you don't know whether to shit or go blind on this or that occasion. It's not a general condition, but can be acute, sometimes. As in, "a cute chick". I think that's dated, too, outside American collegiate frat houses.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#63  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 02, 2018 10:15 pm

UncertainSloth wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


why can't you call them women?


Fallible wrote:Why can't you just call them what they are? Are you allergic to the word or something?


Keep It Real wrote:Yeah pretty much, as are quite a few "ladies" i've met in the past. The trouble is it's got the word men/man in it.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#64  Postby Fallible » Apr 02, 2018 10:17 pm

Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


I know, how dreadful. At least there's no doubt about what to call yourself. Imagine that, not knowing what to refer to yourself as because every word connotes something more.

Incidentally, I've never seen anyone but you say that 'woman' is unacceptable because it's got 'man' in it. Oh no sorry you, and the odd off the scale straight-up man hating crazy person.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#65  Postby Fallible » Apr 02, 2018 10:22 pm

Cito di Pense wrote:
Fallible wrote:Every time I see a shit woman driver I die a little bit inside. Been dying a lot lately, but maybe it's just confirmation bias.


Shit male drivers I address covertly as 'asshole'. So you see, 'lady' is not really gentler. Anytime I address a woman to her face as 'lady', she knows I mean 'asshole'.


I'm not just even-handed in my views on the sexes. I am also an equal opportunities insulter. So my daily greeting to my work colleague is 'morning, motherfucker'. My favourite insult to use towards my 17 year old daughter is 'you dick'. My usual response to Theresa May or Amber Rudd is 'that bastard'. Anyone calling me a lady has been woefully misinformed.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#66  Postby UncertainSloth » Apr 02, 2018 10:26 pm

Keep It Real wrote:
UncertainSloth wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


why can't you call them women?


Fallible wrote:Why can't you just call them what they are? Are you allergic to the word or something?


Keep It Real wrote:Yeah pretty much, as are quite a few "ladies" i've met in the past. The trouble is it's got the word men/man in it.


yep, saw that but doesn't mean you can't use it...unless you can explain why there's such an issue with that, i don't see what the trouble is....
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#67  Postby UncertainSloth » Apr 02, 2018 10:30 pm

Fallible wrote:
Cito di Pense wrote:
Fallible wrote:Every time I see a shit woman driver I die a little bit inside. Been dying a lot lately, but maybe it's just confirmation bias.


Shit male drivers I address covertly as 'asshole'. So you see, 'lady' is not really gentler. Anytime I address a woman to her face as 'lady', she knows I mean 'asshole'.


I'm not just even-handed in my views on the sexes. I am also an equal opportunities insulter. So my daily greeting to my work colleague is 'morning, motherfucker'. My favourite insult to use towards my 17 year old daughter is 'you dick'. My usual response to Theresa May or Amber Rudd is 'that bastard'. Anyone calling me a lady has been woefully misinformed.


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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#68  Postby SafeAsMilk » Apr 02, 2018 10:39 pm

UncertainSloth wrote:
it annoys the fuck out of me on another forum i frequent where men address their wives/partners as 'my lady'....why the fuck not just say 'my wife'...fucking cringeworthy nonsense - it's not out of respect, it's not out of deference...it's just...well....mealy-mouthed...;)

There's only two instances where I hear people refer to women as "ladies":

1. Neckbeards: *tips fedora* "M'lady!"

2. Copping an attitude: "Listen here, lady!"
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#69  Postby Fallible » Apr 02, 2018 10:42 pm

UncertainSloth wrote:
Fallible wrote:
Cito di Pense wrote:
Fallible wrote:Every time I see a shit woman driver I die a little bit inside. Been dying a lot lately, but maybe it's just confirmation bias.


Shit male drivers I address covertly as 'asshole'. So you see, 'lady' is not really gentler. Anytime I address a woman to her face as 'lady', she knows I mean 'asshole'.


I'm not just even-handed in my views on the sexes. I am also an equal opportunities insulter. So my daily greeting to my work colleague is 'morning, motherfucker'. My favourite insult to use towards my 17 year old daughter is 'you dick'. My usual response to Theresa May or Amber Rudd is 'that bastard'. Anyone calling me a lady has been woefully misinformed.


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You're such a betch.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#70  Postby Cito di Pense » Apr 02, 2018 10:47 pm

SafeAsMilk wrote:
2. Copping an attitude: "Listen here, lady!"


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Translation by Elbert Hubbard: Do not take life too seriously. You're not going to get out of it alive.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#71  Postby Cito di Pense » Apr 02, 2018 10:48 pm

Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


I guess it's been awhile since you watched The Tao of Steve.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#72  Postby SafeAsMilk » Apr 02, 2018 11:24 pm

Cito di Pense wrote:
SafeAsMilk wrote:
2. Copping an attitude: "Listen here, lady!"



Nyaaaa, see!
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#73  Postby SafeAsMilk » Apr 02, 2018 11:25 pm

Keep It Real wrote:
UncertainSloth wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


why can't you call them women?


Fallible wrote:Why can't you just call them what they are? Are you allergic to the word or something?


Keep It Real wrote:Yeah pretty much, as are quite a few "ladies" i've met in the past. The trouble is it's got the word men/man in it.

Wait, so you don't want to offend people who don't like woman because it's got man in it, but you think those same people would be totally fine with "lady" or "bird" :lol:
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#74  Postby Rachel Bronwyn » Apr 02, 2018 11:26 pm

My goodness.

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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#75  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 03, 2018 4:11 am

SafeAsMilk wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:
UncertainSloth wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


why can't you call them women?


Fallible wrote:Why can't you just call them what they are? Are you allergic to the word or something?


Keep It Real wrote:Yeah pretty much, as are quite a few "ladies" i've met in the past. The trouble is it's got the word men/man in it.

Wait, so you don't want to offend people who don't like woman because it's got man in it, but you think those same people would be totally fine with "lady" or "bird" :lol:


Strawmantastic SAM. Strange - that's not like you at all :eh:
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#76  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 03, 2018 4:15 am

Cito di Pense wrote:
Keep It Real wrote:Oh for fuck's sake I'm completely fucking tortured now - can't call 'em birds, ladies or women...how about XXs or Eves...


I guess it's been awhile since you watched The Tao of Steve.


Never seen it. On the DL now...
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#77  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 03, 2018 5:04 am

Arthur : All my life I've had this strange feeling that there's something big and sinister going on in the world. Slartibartfast : No, that's perfectly normal paranoia.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#78  Postby Thommo » Apr 03, 2018 7:03 am



Thank you, that was actually pretty fun and a much better answer than I deserved.
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#79  Postby Keep It Real » Apr 03, 2018 8:24 am

SafeAsMilk wrote:Would you like some cheese with that whine?


What's the difference between a whine and a highlighting a valid problem? :ask:
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Re: Mistaking kindness/generosity for weakness.

#80  Postby Thommo » Apr 03, 2018 8:37 am

The existence of a problem, for one.
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