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Referring to oneself as "we" when self talking

#1  Postby CdesignProponentsist » Jan 13, 2016 10:58 pm

I've never really paid much attention to how I refer to myself when I'm talking to myself, but a few weeks ago I was struck with the fact that when I do, I almost always call myself "we". "We need to go to the store" or "We should clean house today". I've come to realize that its a compulsion for me. When I use "I" it feels just as weird or wrong as referring to a group I'm in as I. It's like I'm talking to a collective, which is probably accurate once you think about the structure of human consciousness. This piqued my curiosity.

Any professional or armature headshrinkers or neurologists in the community have any interesting tidbits on why this is?

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Re: Referring to oneself as "we" when self talking

#2  Postby scott1328 » Jan 13, 2016 11:45 pm

We are not inclined to answer that question.
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#3  Postby The_Metatron » Jan 13, 2016 11:52 pm

CdesignProponentsist wrote:I've never really paid much attention to how I refer to myself when I'm talking to myself, but a few weeks ago I was struck with the fact that when I do, I almost always call myself "we". "We need to go to the store" or "We should clean house today". I've come to realize that its a compulsion for me. When I use "I" it feels just as weird or wrong as referring to a group I'm in as I. It's like I'm talking to a collective, which is probably accurate once you think about the structure of human consciousness. This piqued my curiosity.

Any professional or armature headshrinkers or neurologists in the community have any interesting tidbits on why this is?

How do you refer to yourself when self talking?

We is a plural, in common usage.

I disapprove of its use to refer to one's self. I further disapprove of referring to one's self in the third person. It makes one sound like a goddamned self-absorbed idiot (for example, the former member Galaxian).
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Re: Referring to oneself as "we" when self talking

#4  Postby The_Piper » Jan 14, 2016 12:09 am

There's a Seinfeld for everything. 8-)


I sometimes think "we have to" this and that when I'm alone referring to myself in my head. "We" are my achy body and my mind. :lol:
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#5  Postby SafeAsMilk » Jan 14, 2016 12:10 am

The_Metatron wrote:I further disapprove of referring to one's self in the third person. It makes one sound like a goddamned self-absorbed idiot (for example, the former member Galaxian).

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#6  Postby ScholasticSpastic » Jan 14, 2016 2:14 am

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Re: Referring to oneself as "we" when self talking

#7  Postby CdesignProponentsist » Jan 14, 2016 2:50 am

Well this thread got derailed from the get go :facepalm:

To reiterate, I'm talking about self-talking or intrapersonal communication. Not when conversing with others.
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Re: Referring to oneself as "we" when self talking

#8  Postby The_Piper » Jan 14, 2016 3:10 am

I answered. :snooty:
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#9  Postby laklak » Jan 14, 2016 3:32 am

We aren't sure, let me ask us.
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#10  Postby igorfrankensteen » Jan 14, 2016 3:38 am

Yes, I have some serious suggestions for you.

* you do it as the result of a sort of reverse-context training. That is, you grew up in a family, in which you were NOT the official "leader." You learned the "correct form" for talking about going to the store in that family context, and so by rote, you now use "we" whenever going to the grocery store (or similar tasks) comes up.

* for some reason, you don't feel personally empowered to decide certain things. Whenever you are about to say or do something that you feel needs justification beyond "cuz I wanna," you use the Royal We, in order to shift or share responsibility with imaginary others.

* you are so used to channeling movies and using their dialog to express yourself, that you even do mini-quotes, which happens to include saying "we" in a semi-humorous, semi-serious way, as if you have an audience who really liked series like "Cheers" or "Friends."
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#11  Postby CdesignProponentsist » Jan 14, 2016 6:32 am

The first seems the most plausible.
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#12  Postby Thommo » Jan 14, 2016 6:34 am

CdesignProponentsist wrote:How do you refer to yourself when self talking?


"Oy, you"? :ask:

More seriously, if I vocalise an instruction to myself I usually use a name (either my name e.g. "Get a grip Paul", or "you twat" or something). Normally this is if I'm intensely annoyed and giving myself a telling off (generally only happens playing video games, oddly enough). Internally, I only ever think of myself as the pronoun "I".

I really don't talk to myself a lot. I'm more into talking to my cat.
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#13  Postby CdesignProponentsist » Jan 14, 2016 6:41 am

The_Piper wrote:
I sometimes think "we have to" this and that when I'm alone referring to myself in my head. "We" are my achy body and my mind. :lol:
Am I crazy too?



Don't answer that!


This is kind of how I feel when I do it. I'm speaking to myself as my separate entities body/mind. I'm not sure if I subconsciously do it because of the feeling, or feel it as a result of doing it or a combination of both.

It might also be that being somewhat of a hermit, I do it in some strange way to keep myself company. Yes, I think we are crazy.
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#14  Postby Briton » Jan 14, 2016 8:47 am

I don't speak to myself. We've fallen out.
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#15  Postby Mike_L » Jan 14, 2016 10:01 am

We are Legion.
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#16  Postby LucidFlight » Jan 14, 2016 10:27 am

We wants it, we needs it. Must have the precious. They stole it from us. Sneaky little hobbitses. Wicked, tricksy, false!
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#17  Postby Animavore » Jan 14, 2016 10:40 am

Legion? Is that you?
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#18  Postby BlackBart » Jan 14, 2016 11:20 am

The_Metatron wrote:

I disapprove of its use to refer to one's self. I further disapprove of referring to one's self in the third person. It makes one sound like a goddamned self-absorbed idiot (for example, the former member Galaxian).


The reason Galaxian did that was because 'Galaxian' was his long-dead alien spirit guide. And he was referring to that rather than himself. He alluded to it a few times but never came out and said it plainly.
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#19  Postby Animavore » Jan 14, 2016 11:22 am

In Ireland a lot of people refer to oneself as 'us'. Like, "Give us (me) a look at that."
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#20  Postby laklak » Jan 14, 2016 3:53 pm

Geordies do that too. Gi' us a kiss, luv.
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