...and its problems, issues etc.
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james1v wrote:The price of Werther's Originals seems to keep on rising above inflation. At this rate, i doubt i will be able to afford them when the time comes.
laklak wrote:I've never thought my kids should take me in, but I do (or will, don't need it yet) expect a bit of help around the Old Home Place. Well, at least if they want any of it after I pop my clogs. Mrs. Lak is a traditionalist, I'm certain her mum will be living with us at some point in the next 10 years or so. Not a problem, I knew this when we got married. My parents lived in their own home and were independent till they died, which was great. I hope that's what happens to me. Actually, unless I'm too debilitated it will happen exactly like that because I'll take care of my exit.
Mrs. Lak's gran is 90 and still living on her own, up in Geordieland. A nurse or carer comes round once a week but otherwise she's independent. Still gets the bus to Newcastle city market and walks up to the library. She's a tough old bird.
kennyc wrote:Agrippina wrote:kennyc wrote:Well hell this is a depressing thread and it resembles me......
Unfortunately old age is very depressing when you realise that your plans aren't working out the way you thought they would.
I'm only becoming aware of that now as I see my neighbours battling with new technology, cars that are too old to run anymore, and no money to replace them, inadequate public transport, and so on. When we're young we think we'll always be as capable as we are, but then it all goes pear-shaped when something horrible happens, like a fall that completely changes your life.
Oh I understand.....just beginning to see the shadows on the wall myself. I live alone and am semi-retired at this point living off of savings from the prior job and trying to build up some income from writing. All my bills are paid off for the moment and I hope to be able to live from my 'early' retirement beginning next year...but it will be dicey...any major expense could throw a wrench in the works.....hell I'm only 62, I can't imagine trying to take care of everything round here in another 20 years.....gawd knows where my kids will be at that point, but I'd rather they not have to be spending their time caring for me.
kennyc wrote:Fallible wrote:.....
Yeah, could be. I actually think there is something else going on too whereby the elderly think of themselves as imposing on their kids if they go to live with them, this idea that we're all so busy now that we don't have the time to take care of each other. I know that's what prompted my grandparents to go into homes, and no amount of pleading or cajoling would talk them out of it.
Yep, see my previous post.
Even though all their lives I've told them I was going to end up living in their basement cause I have no retirement money. Not totally fictitious.
and see here's my other issue since we are being so frank with one another. My daughter who is 25 and lives with her mother, my ex. have been having issues with each other and we've been through more history and issues than you really want to know about...but she asked about moving in here and living in the basement -- she makes minimum wage, can't really afford a place on her own and even her employment is sketchy and has been forever. Again I won't go into all the reasons for the issues. But I basically told her I needed to live alone ... which is pretty much true....but I'm also hoping she will get out on her one and begin taking more responsibility......to get back to the point of the thread though.....I thinking that I've ruined any chances of living in her basement in the future should I need to.
tuco wrote:Can provide one fact relevant to discussion. Will not verify with links as they are in Czech but cost of institutional care for elderly in CR is around 25 - 30 000 Kč per bed per month (900-1100 euro). If elderly stays in home care, and 24h care is needed, the state provides around half this amount to those providing care, usually family member, as compensation for loss of job etc.
The way I see it and from my experience, there is lots of talk about respect for old age but the money often are in someone else's mouth, pocket respectively.
james1v wrote:The price of Werther's Originals seems to keep on rising above inflation. At this rate, i doubt i will be able to afford them when the time comes.
trubble76 wrote:
On the bright side, the downsides to drug use evaporate, may as well get fucked up.
laklak wrote:trubble76 wrote:
On the bright side, the downsides to drug use evaporate, may as well get fucked up. :smoke:
My sentiments exactly. There is no reason not to fire up that bomber. Not having to get up and go to work is bloody marvelous, if I decide to wake-and-bake there's no reason not to.
trubble76 wrote:
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By the time of his death, he was convinced that both my mum and I were his enemies, even though we put so much into caring for them both. At the end, we were written out of his will, most of it going to relatives that didn't even make the short journey to visit them, either while healthy at home or dying in hospital. Aging can be so very cruel.
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