My husband was present as both births (although he almost fainted at the 1st & had to leave the room for a bit!). He was a good support when needed & dutifully watched Grandstand on the ward TV when I just wanted to pace up and down!

The funniest bit was when the woman in the next bay started wailing like a cat & he asked the midwives to fetch her a saucer of milk.

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cherries wrote:

KeenIdiot wrote:Talked with my most recent ex-girlfriend about this at some point, and she wanted me there if we had had children together.
I have no problem being there for support, and having spent part of my younger days on a farm helping my grandfather with cattle and goats in birthing I am not particularly squeamish.

when i was twenty i lost twins at the sixth month of pregnancy, that was real tough, my first husband was quite supportive, it was in the uk and he was there when they pulled out the little bodies one by one, later when my friends( from germany) came to visit who were there for my wedding( it happened on the same day), one of my friend (a frail little punk ) fainted,
that was so cute

Part of my nursing training was a three-month stint of working in the gynaecology ward, so I saw a few of similar miscarriages. The first one I saw has stuck in my mind. The tiny little 4 months foetus just slipped out into the bed, and I had to clean up the mess. It didn't bother me, so I imagine I could be on the viewing end of someone having a baby, if I was asked to be there.

i didn't see your reply. the doctor said that a couple of more weeks and my babies would have had a good chance of survival.

cherries wrote:

Agrippina wrote:

cherries wrote:

KeenIdiot wrote:Talked with my most recent ex-girlfriend about this at some point, and she wanted me there if we had had children together.
I have no problem being there for support, and having spent part of my younger days on a farm helping my grandfather with cattle and goats in birthing I am not particularly squeamish.

when i was twenty i lost twins at the sixth month of pregnancy, that was real tough, my first husband was quite supportive, it was in the uk and he was there when they pulled out the little bodies one by one, later when my friends( from germany) came to visit who were there for my wedding( it happened on the same day), one of my friend (a frail little punk ) fainted,
that was so cute

Part of my nursing training was a three-month stint of working in the gynaecology ward, so I saw a few of similar miscarriages. The first one I saw has stuck in my mind. The tiny little 4 months foetus just slipped out into the bed, and I had to clean up the mess. It didn't bother me, so I imagine I could be on the viewing end of someone having a baby, if I was asked to be there.

i didn't see your reply. the doctor said that a couple of more weeks and my babies would have had a good chance of survival.

and it was in no way similar, i looked 9 month pregnant at the time, i was in labour and they didn't slither out, they had to be pulled out because things didn't want to progress, the nurse wanted to administer something to stop the milk from coming in which i refused , unwisely, in consequence of which i had swollen breasts for a long time and no babies which was very painful and together with the hormones coming in, the loss of the babies etc made for a very sad time.

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cherries wrote:

Agrippina wrote:

cherries wrote:



when i was twenty i lost twins at the sixth month of pregnancy, that was real tough, my first husband was quite supportive, it was in the uk and he was there when they pulled out the little bodies one by one, later when my friends( from germany) came to visit who were there for my wedding( it happened on the same day), one of my friend (a frail little punk ) fainted,
that was so cute

Part of my nursing training was a three-month stint of working in the gynaecology ward, so I saw a few of similar miscarriages. The first one I saw has stuck in my mind. The tiny little 4 months foetus just slipped out into the bed, and I had to clean up the mess. It didn't bother me, so I imagine I could be on the viewing end of someone having a baby, if I was asked to be there.

i didn't see your reply. the doctor said that a couple of more weeks and my babies would have had a good chance of survival.

and it was in no way similar, i looked 9 month pregnant at the time, i was in labour and they didn't slither out, they had to be pulled out because things didn't want to progress, the nurse wanted to administer something to stop the milk from coming in which i refused , unwisely, in consequence of which i had swollen breasts for a long time and no babies which was very painful and together with the hormones coming in, the loss of the babies etc made for a very sad time.

cherries. I'm so sorry. You lost two children on that day. So very sad.

I saw my sisters go through similar experiences when they had miscarriages. One of them was also very close to the birth date so it was a big loss for the family.

I don't know if I said this, I asked my DH if he would've wanted to be there, he said no. At least he was honest, but maybe had we actually had a child together, he might've changed his mind.