Gosh guys, I'm so sorry.
I know how you feel, believe me, I understand completely because I'm getting to almost wheelchair mobility now.
It started when I was very young with digestive problems. And the horrible thing is that when you have tests done, they come back "normal" or "negative" or "within the normal range" so you walk away feeling that nobody believes you and when you're feeling well they say "you don't look ill!"
I don't normally like to talk about it and I tend to just let it go but seeing that this is for technical reasons, I'll open up a little.
The digestive problems landed me in hospital for observation and tests. I was diagnosed as having "anorexia nervosa" and put on watch, right outside the nurses' station. They suspected that I was actively throwing up because I was like a stick figure.
They watched me eat, and eat, and suffer with IBS, and when I didn't throw up, they started looking a little closer.
Nothing, not a thing wrong, so they sent me home. The physician said that maybe it was psychological and that I needed to leave home, so I took up nursing. This was a good thing because it helped me learn about how my body worked and opened the door to academia for me. (that's a whole other story).
I did my nursing training but again, for reasons that aren't important here. I moved on.
I married, started having babies and when I complained of pain, was told "it's in your head."
Thirty years of chronic pain and serious bouts of depression and a few messed up relationships later, I finally got to see a rheumatologist when my DH insisted because I couldn't do my job without experiencing pain, even picking up something off the floor would get me bursting into tears.
My physician recommended that I see this man:
Dr Patrick Dessein.
He is recognised as one of the best authorities on fibromyalgia and related diseases.
He put me onto a programme of steroids and a high protein diet and recommended low impact exercise, absolutely no aerobics or road running. I was fine for about five years, but then the symptoms became bad enough for me to be put on medical retirement. That was about 12 years ago.
My observations:While I accept that my experience and observations are "not science" being on the inside and having lived with symptoms for almost half a century, I think I'm qualified enough to offer my opinion on what I've noticed.
1. It seemed to me that there might have been a familial connection. Two of my sisters complain of a mild form of what happens to me. I don't think it's genetic, I think there may be a link in a family due to something in the way the family is fed or how the food is prepared, and in my case, add to that an ignorant mother let loose with old wives' tales about how the body worked. We used to be fed a weekly dose of "opening medicine" a euphemism for laxatives. These old-fashioned women were taught, or believed, that an empty bowel was a healthy one. So once a week we got Scott's Emulsion and I forget the name, but some horrible-tasting liquid laxative. I believe that this over-dosing of laxatives was responsible for mine, and my sisters' IBS in adulthood. So while I say a possible familial connection, it could simply be that the family being fed the same thing, a "nervous" bowel could develop the symptom. We know more about bowel habits today. i.e. that some children go every day, sometimes more, and others, every other day. Children should be fed a healthy balanced diet with as few preservatives or artificial flavours as possible, and they shouldn't develop problems. If they do, then a paediatrician should be consulted, not their grandmother.
2. There is a definite cognitive aspect to it. Depression, possibly diagnosed bipolar disorder, or as hyperactivity which doctors will diagnose and treat with ritalin. If the chld is hyperactive and has IBS and poor concentration, it's worth looking at CFS as a possible cause,. If it's lack of concentration and hypersomnia, and IBS, with bouts of restlessness, mention CFS. In my case, I had all of them. I could sleep around the clock, then rush off to do one thing, leave it lying to do something else and then eat a whole packet of marshmallows just before wolfing down a whole family dinner, and then complain that my neck hurt.
3. Forgetfulness, and as Dawn mentioned with words especially. And it's getting worse as I get older. I know the difference between its and it's but I often find those errors in my typing and correct them, but with other people it just doesn't happen. I forget where I've left things, so I have computer programs to remember for me. I can remember to make a note of where I hide things from myself and I have to keep a very orderly house otherwise I'd lose everything. At one time, I lost three ID documents (a very important document in SA, we cannot do anything without it) in the space of a few weeks. And when I lost things they're gone forever. The memory of even having them is lost. So I write everything down, where I file my papers and where I've changed cupboards around. And all my passwords are recorded, because I can't remember them. It's also selective memory because i don't have a problem with numbers and dates. I can remember dates but not names, and words. Dictionaries and Wikipedia are my friends.
4. Pain. It's not arthritis and joint swelling and it's not stiff muscles. It feels like arthritis but the joints don't swell but they hurt like hell. But not only the joints, your whole body hurts. You can't rest your feet on a pillow without your heels burning. You can't cross your legs, or have a massage. or let a strange person cut your toenails (you can't get there to do it for yourself) because they insist on grabbing your ankles and when you scream in agony, they say "sorry, did I hurt you?" You don't hug, you don't shake hands, it's all too painful. I've figured something out with the long muscle problem. It seems that they lock in a position. Say you're sitting down, they stretch on one side and contract on the other. When you get up to walk, they have to switch, the stretched ones have to contract and the contracted ones to stretch. This is a virtual impossibility for CFS/CPS sufferers. People make you sit in the back of the car and then whine when it takes you five minutes to get out of the seat. And they say "you're not old!" Walking gets more and more painful because you're putting weight on your feet, which are already hurting.
Then there's the pains that hit you for no apparent reason. Your muscles cramp or you get shooting pains in your toes, or a toe, or a leg, sometimes both legs. Just for fun in case you thought you were having a pain-free day.
You get headaches, they're like migraines only a little worse and can last for a minute to a week. For me, it's one spot on the left of my head. There's nothing there, it's been scanned over and over in the last 20 years. Nothing, it's just pain.
5. Hypersomnia/hyposomnia. Some nights you sleep for 10 hours, others for 2 or not at all. There's no predicting what you'll do on any particular night. So you go to bed every night hoping you'll sleep and if your family are sensitive they'll let you sleep, if not, they'll wake you up because they need feeding or to be taken somewhere, or the phone rings and nobody bothers with it, so you get up and then don't sleep again while they're happily having their 8 hours. I'll talk more about this later.
6. Digestive problems. It can be diarrhoea or constipation, or a combination of the two. There seems to be a coeliac (spelling?) element to it. In other words a refined starch problem. Definitely not keeping your bowels regular is a severe problem.
7. Getting back to the cognitive problem aspect, there is irritability. Well who wouldn't be irritable if they lived with chronic pain and especially if they didn't know when the next pain would strike. I'm definitely a nicer person when I'm feeling well, but I also have a very quick temper and I'll rant or get nasty with very little provocation, and it can simply be that "I had the thing in my hands a minute ago, where the hell is it" and I'll go off on a tirade about everything else as well while I'm on a roll. (Thank the FSM for my sense of humour).
Now what helps?
1. Diet. Very definitely Dr Dessein's ideas about food work. Avoid all preservatives and artificial flavourings. Try to cook most of your food yourself and don't add MSG or artificial anything. He advocates a high protein diet, but that doesn't work for me. Apart from the ethical aspect of veganism, I find that a vegan diet is definitely doing it for me. If I eat a pizza or cheese sauce, then all the bells start ringing and I go off on a pain bender. I've been vegetarian for about 2 1/2 years now and have noticed a definite improvement in my pain management. It's not gone but it's manageable.
This is Dr Dessein's diet (modified a little since I haven't seen him for a while because I don't live near him anymore):
Drink lots of water. Try to avoid alcohol, or over-indulging in alcohol, tea and coffee. You can drink them but in small amounts.
For breakfast: High fibre component, a protein component and a fruit. I combine the three by making a smoothie with soya milk and muesli.
For lunch/dinner: A protein, a small amount of high fibre starch and a protein. with a salad or cooked vegetables.
An example would be a small baked potato, a grilled chicken breast and a green salad. Or a steak, a small baked potato, and a salad.
The rule is moderation. You can go slightly higher in protein, but be aware that animal protein rots in your gut and could cause an irritable bowel attack. I find that eating vegetable protein is better because it works with the vegetable portion of the meal to get the gut moving. A healthy bowel doesn't get cancer.
My typical meals are a bean sausage and brown roll hotdog for lunch and lentil curry with brown rice with chopped fresh tomato and onion on the side. Or a stir fry with Chinese vegetables, "chicken" soya strips and noodles or rice, or a pasta dish made with home made tomato sauce.
There is a definite improvement if you can get a balanced diet.
2. Anti-inflammatories. Speak to a doctor about these. They can damage your stomach so always balance the side-effects with something to protect you against damage. I use Lansoprazole 30mg daily. Discuss this with your physician. If I don't take this, I develop the typical digestive problems of long-term anti-inflammatory use, one side effect of which is a bleeding ulcer. So always get a professional opinion about using these drugs. Remember I am not a physician, I'm merely stating what works for me.
3. In the very short term, a daily quinine pill (anti-malaria pill) helps to get the pain under control. But be aware that these things can damage your eyes (gin and tonic much) so use them with extreme caution. I took them for a year because I felt I was already old and wearing glasses was a small price to pay for being pain-free.
4. Then there is methatrexate. Again, speak to a physician about this. It works. It breaks the extreme pain, gets you on track but it involves blood tests on a regular basis if used for more than I think 4 doses. It is a very dangerous drug, I used it for a few cycles for three months at a time, but had to go for blood tests. It was the only way I could work, drive a car and run my family. My kids needed an education and I had to support them, so I used this drug to get there. I've only used it once in the last ten years and that was because I thought that I could think myself out of pain so I stopped taking all my pills and also stopped walking.
5. I went through a stage when my adrenal glands weren't functioning so I had to go onto cortisone:
Cortisol. Again, to be used only under the care and direction of a physician.
6. Finally, avoid refined starch and sugar and particularly a combination of both. There is definitely something in this. About three weeks ago, I entertained some long-lost friends for lunch. While I made sure that everything I ate was OK, I went overboard eating dessert. I paid for the cream spiked with castor sugar and the carrot cake with cream cheese frosting, almost with my life. I stopped functioning for almost a week and suffered the most unbelievable pain in every part of my body. And I slept for three days. I've sworn off dairy and sugars except for the occasional chocolate, and white bread. White flour, and particularly white bread laced with garlic butter is poison for CFS sufferers. I don't understand the chemistry, remember I said I wasn't a scientist, but I do know now that part of the chronic fatigue I've lived with for all my life, and the pain has been as a result of my predilection for anything made with white flour: buns, crispy rolls, cakes, tarts, desserts, brownies, chocolate cake, you mention it, I'll eat it and sleep for three days afterwards. I noticed this when I started having severe attacks around Christmas. It used to be a time of special feasting for my family for reasons that don't matter, and I would bake in preparation for it, taste everything I made (like caramel fridge cake nom nom) and then pig out for the week after Christmas along with the kids. Then I would pay. It's not sugar on its own (I have sugar in coffee) it's the combination of refined starch and refined sugar. For what it's worth, give it a try.
I apologise for the long post but I really do want to help on this one, and I'm also looking for ideas that might help me avoid having to use a wheelchair to go to my favourite shopping mall for as long as I can. (And I want to go to Scotland one more time).
A mind without instruction can no more bear fruit than can a field, however fertile, without cultivation. - Marcus Tullius Cicero (106 BCE - 43 BCE)