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aban57 wrote:willhud9 wrote:
Pay for it how? If she has unprotected sex with me knowingly then she also knows the risk to her own body i.e. she can get pregnant. She can choose to abort it or carry it to term, or it could end in a miscarriage. She made the decision to have sex with me knowing the risks. She is not "paying" for anything.
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Fallible wrote:I'm not sure I see how being forced to carry another human around inside you for 9 months with all that that entails is exactly the same as being made to give money once a month. Maybe I'm missing something.
willhud9 wrote:aban57 wrote:willhud9 wrote:
Pay for it how? If she has unprotected sex with me knowingly then she also knows the risk to her own body i.e. she can get pregnant. She can choose to abort it or carry it to term, or it could end in a miscarriage. She made the decision to have sex with me knowing the risks. She is not "paying" for anything.
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
willhud9 wrote:aban57 wrote:willhud9 wrote:
Pay for it how? If she has unprotected sex with me knowingly then she also knows the risk to her own body i.e. she can get pregnant. She can choose to abort it or carry it to term, or it could end in a miscarriage. She made the decision to have sex with me knowing the risks. She is not "paying" for anything.
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:aban57 wrote:willhud9 wrote:
Pay for it how? If she has unprotected sex with me knowingly then she also knows the risk to her own body i.e. she can get pregnant. She can choose to abort it or carry it to term, or it could end in a miscarriage. She made the decision to have sex with me knowing the risks. She is not "paying" for anything.
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
Will, in what other area of life would you think a person should be absolved of personal responsibility for something they did just because somebody else could have cleaned up their mess but didn't? Like if I drive my car recklessly and end up in a collision, nobody would say I should be absolved of my responsibility just because the other driver could have moved out of the way but didn't. Nobody would say that other driver forced me into the collision when I had already been driving recklessly. I'm responsible for my own actions even if somebody else could have corrected for my behavior but didn't.
And what's pretty ironic here is that I'd bet my house that most of the people who would find your position compelling are the same type who'd tout the importance of personal responsibility in every other facet of life except for this one narrow situation where they don't like it so much.
The_Metatron wrote:The real world isn't always fair. Be careful where you release the lads.
willhud9 wrote: I also contend that saying a man is responsible for a child he did not plan for or want is also sexist and unethical.
willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:aban57 wrote:
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
Will, in what other area of life would you think a person should be absolved of personal responsibility for something they did just because somebody else could have cleaned up their mess but didn't? Like if I drive my car recklessly and end up in a collision, nobody would say I should be absolved of my responsibility just because the other driver could have moved out of the way but didn't. Nobody would say that other driver forced me into the collision when I had already been driving recklessly. I'm responsible for my own actions even if somebody else could have corrected for my behavior but didn't.
And what's pretty ironic here is that I'd bet my house that most of the people who would find your position compelling are the same type who'd tout the importance of personal responsibility in every other facet of life except for this one narrow situation where they don't like it so much.
Your analogy is not really comparable though.
As I stated above if a woman and I both had unprotected sex that is both of our responsibility. The problem arises that in terms of rights we are not equal. If a woman has the right to choose to not be a mother then a man should also have the equal right to not be a father. Equal rights.
If the woman does not want to be a mother but the man wants to be a father the man has zero say.
However I will to one step further and say if the woman wants to be a mother but the man does not want to be a father he has the right to choose that option.
Your talk of responsibilities is very akin to conservative pro-lifers who say it's the woman's responsibility to carry the child to term. We say that kind of restriction is sexist and unethical. I also contend that saying a man is responsible for a child he did not plan for or want is also sexist and unethical.
willhud9 wrote:Fallible wrote:I'm not sure I see how being forced to carry another human around inside you for 9 months with all that that entails is exactly the same as being made to give money once a month. Maybe I'm missing something.
It is a good thing I am not saying it's the exact same thing.
Glad this straw man could be resolved though.
willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:aban57 wrote:
What a selfish an idiotic logic.
So do you. You know perfectly that not protecting yourself may lead to her being pregnant. But maybe you didn't understand the principle behind that. It takes both of you to make a child. If you don't protect yourself, you're as responsible as she is.
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
Will, in what other area of life would you think a person should be absolved of personal responsibility for something they did just because somebody else could have cleaned up their mess but didn't? Like if I drive my car recklessly and end up in a collision, nobody would say I should be absolved of my responsibility just because the other driver could have moved out of the way but didn't. Nobody would say that other driver forced me into the collision when I had already been driving recklessly. I'm responsible for my own actions even if somebody else could have corrected for my behavior but didn't.
And what's pretty ironic here is that I'd bet my house that most of the people who would find your position compelling are the same type who'd tout the importance of personal responsibility in every other facet of life except for this one narrow situation where they don't like it so much.
Your analogy is not really comparable though.
As I stated above if a woman and I both had unprotected sex that is both of our responsibility. The problem arises that in terms of rights we are not equal. If a woman has the right to choose to not be a mother then a man should also have the equal right to not be a father. Equal rights.
If the woman does not want to be a mother but the man wants to be a father the man has zero say.
However I will to one step further and say if the woman wants to be a mother but the man does not want to be a father he has the right to choose that option.
willhud9 wrote:
Your talk of responsibilities is very akin to conservative pro-lifers who say it's the woman's responsibility to carry the child to term. We say that kind of restriction is sexist and unethical. I also contend that saying a man is responsible for a child he did not plan for or want is also sexist and unethical.
willhud9 wrote:scott1328 wrote:willhud9 wrote:Fallible wrote:I'm not sure I see how being forced to carry another human around inside you for 9 months with all that that entails is exactly the same as being made to give money once a month. Maybe I'm missing something.
It is a good thing I am not saying it's the exact same thing.
Glad this straw man could be resolved though.
Will. I urge you to read through the other thread Tuco linked to. It thoroughly discusses the topic of male responsibility. And in that thread you will see that I am no fan of the current way men are treated with regard to parental rights/responsibilities. But that conversation seems off topic to this one. there is simply no "what about teh menz" argument that justifies the illegal restrictions Arkansas is trying to impose on women.
That's not the point I'm trying to make though. I agree there is no justification for this law. The problem comes when people are quick to bash this law but ignore a similar law which can give a precedent in court for this shitty law.
purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:
Aye, we are both responsible, as I said initially. But she is the only one with the power and right to decide whether she keeps the pregnancy.
So in other words the woman can force fatherhood on the man.
You guys really are doing some mental gymnastics on this one.
Will, in what other area of life would you think a person should be absolved of personal responsibility for something they did just because somebody else could have cleaned up their mess but didn't? Like if I drive my car recklessly and end up in a collision, nobody would say I should be absolved of my responsibility just because the other driver could have moved out of the way but didn't. Nobody would say that other driver forced me into the collision when I had already been driving recklessly. I'm responsible for my own actions even if somebody else could have corrected for my behavior but didn't.
And what's pretty ironic here is that I'd bet my house that most of the people who would find your position compelling are the same type who'd tout the importance of personal responsibility in every other facet of life except for this one narrow situation where they don't like it so much.
Your analogy is not really comparable though.
As I stated above if a woman and I both had unprotected sex that is both of our responsibility. The problem arises that in terms of rights we are not equal. If a woman has the right to choose to not be a mother then a man should also have the equal right to not be a father. Equal rights.
If the woman does not want to be a mother but the man wants to be a father the man has zero say.
However I will to one step further and say if the woman wants to be a mother but the man does not want to be a father he has the right to choose that option.
So basically it's just sour grapes because women can get abortions, right? Because if abortion was banned then your whole argument above would be nullified, would it not?
As stated above life is not fair.
Your argument about the inequality of choices due to biological differences might just as well be applied to advocating for laws which try and balance out the inequities between being tall versus short.
willhud9 wrote:
Your talk of responsibilities is very akin to conservative pro-lifers who say it's the woman's responsibility to carry the child to term. We say that kind of restriction is sexist and unethical. I also contend that saying a man is responsible for a child he did not plan for or want is also sexist and unethical.
As far as this lame sexist angle; with the progress of gender identity rights men having abortions and women impregnating people are very much on the table and the same would apply to them. So no sexism.
***edited to fix quotes***
willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:If you are not comparing the two then why are you talking about child support in this thread about abortion laws?
...........again my post.
My initial post in this thread was I found it ironic that people are quick to call this law an outrage when it is a natural extension of current laws based on "traditional" concepts.
It is not equivocating. It is saying because the way current laws are written in regards to sexual responsibility it is not surprising that people are trying to extend said laws to state that the welfare of a fetus is split between the mother and the father.
purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:If you are not comparing the two then why are you talking about child support in this thread about abortion laws?
...........again my post.
My initial post in this thread was I found it ironic that people are quick to call this law an outrage when it is a natural extension of current laws based on "traditional" concepts.
It is not equivocating. It is saying because the way current laws are written in regards to sexual responsibility it is not surprising that people are trying to extend said laws to state that the welfare of a fetus is split between the mother and the father.
So you think people want children to be financially supported because of "tradition"? I think you have a gross misunderstanding of why people are not against laws which require parents to support their children.
willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:purplerat wrote:If you are not comparing the two then why are you talking about child support in this thread about abortion laws?
...........again my post.
My initial post in this thread was I found it ironic that people are quick to call this law an outrage when it is a natural extension of current laws based on "traditional" concepts.
It is not equivocating. It is saying because the way current laws are written in regards to sexual responsibility it is not surprising that people are trying to extend said laws to state that the welfare of a fetus is split between the mother and the father.
So you think people want children to be financially supported because of "tradition"? I think you have a gross misunderstanding of why people are not against laws which require parents to support their children.
And I am not against all child support as I mentioned in one of my earlier posts. I am against the concept that just because my DNA happens to reside within a fetus that I am responsible for it in some manner. It is the exact opposite of what the writers of this law seek that because the DNA resides within a fetus they are partially responsible for it.
willhud9 wrote:
And I am not against all child support as I mentioned in one of my earlier posts. I am against the concept that just because my DNA happens to reside within a fetus that I am responsible for it in some manner. It is the exact opposite of what the writers of this law seek that because the DNA resides within a fetus they are partially responsible for it.
purplerat wrote:willhud9 wrote:The ironic thing is in Arkansas if a woman wants her baby's daddy to pay child support there is very little the man can do.
So a man who may not wanted to have the child is forced to pay for said child, but not many people get outraged over that.
Probably because there's no law restricting men from exercising their ability to not have a kid to support.
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