As the mother of a child with special needs (medical, not developmental), I cannot begin to express how repugnant this whole concept is to me.
It's quite common for parents to wonder "why my child" and "why me" even when the medical reasons are known. It seems terribly unfair. The sentiment expressed in the video is some parents' way of rationalizing the unknowable (or in their minds, the big cosmic why) and sense of injustice because the degree of suffering doesn't jive with the notion of a loving deity. After all, why would a loving god allow the extreme pain and difficulties that some of these children endure? That would be torture, right?
"God never gives you more than you can handle", my ass. Over the years I've witnessed what happens when the situation is more than the families can handle. The results are devastating for everyone involved.
We're grateful to have our son and love him dearly. We're also very fortunate we had access to fantastic medical care and state-of-the-art diagnostic methods. Had we not, he would not have survived. Perhaps when God "sends" children with the same condition as our son's to parents in third world countries, the babies' deaths by suffocation shortly after birth serve the purpose of blessing those parents in some other way.
Disgusting.
"We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the Universe. That makes us something very special."
--Stephen Hawking