That's not a problem. It's the it's the faint aroma of Werther's Originals everyone objects to.

willhud9 wrote:

Rachel Bronwyn wrote:I've got it pretty easy because I'm a somewhat attractive white lady. Even the miserable old homophobes seem to have fetishised the sex I have with women and the sex I have with men isn't gay. All happy outcomes for them.

That's actually something my bisexual women friends deal with. People assume that bisexual means into threesomes, etc.

The only group sex I'm having involves two dudes so good luck to all the guys who try to get disinterested girls to go for FMF (and guys who do this do it regardless what a woman identified as.)

I never understood the fetishizing of FMF or woman on woman to begin with.

What can I say I do with mens that's a little bit ooer? Any suggestions? Or shall I just butt out of a thread intended as a place for people to speak about their personal experiences of coming out, and deal with the fact I must tell everyone I've done straight sex, and how, somewhere else?

Fallible wrote:What can I say I do with mens that's a little bit ooer? Any suggestions? Or shall I just butt out of a thread intended as a place for people to speak about their personal experiences of coming out, and deal with the fact I must tell everyone I've done straight sex, and how, somewhere else?

I mean straight allies are always appreciated

Of course.

willhud9 wrote:I never understood the fetishizing of FMF or woman on woman to begin with.

That's why it's called a fetish.

My boyfriend is gay. He didn't tell me, but I can just tell.

Thomas Eshuis wrote:

willhud9 wrote:I never understood the fetishizing of FMF or woman on woman to begin with.

That's why it's called a fetish.

This is true and I am a member of a fetish bar so I cannot be too judgemental because I know people with really, really bizarre fetishes.

Just a quick story: the very first girl I went on a date with was also the first person I came out to.... On the date. I still feel kind of sorry for that but when she edged ever closer to me in the cinema and I started feeling more and more uncomfortable I realized that yup this is definitely not for me and I wanted to clarify things so as not to take advantage of her. She was a bit flabbergasted but took it well and the evening evolved I to a pretty long fun talk with a shit ton of cocktails and a bad hangover the next morning^^

scott1328 wrote:My boyfriend is gay. He didn't tell me, but I can just tell.

That sounds like bisexual joke: "I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is."

Thanks for sharing Scar. Seems that desipite, initial discomfort, everything turned out fine.

Thomas Eshuis wrote:

scott1328 wrote:My boyfriend is gay. He didn't tell me, but I can just tell.

That sounds like bisexual joke: "I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is."

I am definitely bisexual. I try to have sex at least twice a year.

I suppose this is sort of on topic, in this thread.

http://www.sueddeutsche.de/bayern/politik-eine-frau-fuer-zwiesel-1.3205715

In a place called Zwiesel, in the boondocks of deepest Bavaria, where the average age is over sixty, a trans woman is standing for mayor.

Born as the local butcher's son fifty years ago; away to Munich, the big city, then the great wide world, for twenty-seven years; then back home five years ago, and now this.

The election is on the 27th November.

I recently found out that my Mormon co-worker is gay. I thought he might be, but he's really very Mormon so I was open to the possibility that my gay-dar I'd acquired by associating with Utah's art crowd was off.

It has been my experience that Mormon "elders" in their missionary mode set off the gaydar, rightly or wrongly.

They're so cute.

scott1328 wrote:
I am definitely bisexual. I try to have sex at least twice a year.

I'm definitely not bisexual. I don't buy sex.

scott1328 wrote:

Thomas Eshuis wrote:

scott1328 wrote:My boyfriend is gay. He didn't tell me, but I can just tell.

That sounds like bisexual joke: "I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is."

I am definitely bisexual. I try to have sex at least twice a year.

One of my dads jokes: 'I'm a 100% a lesbian, I'm only attracted to women.'