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Paula1 wrote:I want to go back to the story I posted about my dad and RM's admition that "the catchy phrase" works but there is sometimes a price to pay
Name me some examples where there isn't a price paid for the strength gained. My father and his brother paid for it with their loving emotions. The guy who loses a leg? While it may strengthen his character in some way, I'll bet in 99% of cases there will always be a degree of regret that the limb is gone. The person who fights cancer? I'll bet that in 99% of cases there is regret that time was lost through illness.
But on the whole, let's face it, for most people the trying time is on an emotional level, luckily losing limbs and serious illness affects a minority, for most people it's deaths, divorces, difficult relationships etc.
I am one of those, am I strong? Too fucking right I am. The cost? Barriers as big as the Great Wall of China. Do I like being this way? No. Do I wish I'd had a peaceful easy life? Too fucking right
I think there are lots and lots of members who could claim this experience as their own. Like me, if someone had told them "What Doesn't kill you makes you stronger" when they were in the middle of it that person would have got a kick in the balls. So your assertion that there's good advice in it is bollocks frankly
Raliegh Marsden wrote:rEv...
The catchy phrase "If it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger" is catchy because it's memorable, and straight to the point. At the expense of being catchy, it is true in less than 100% of cases. Why haven't I mentioned this before? Because it doesn't matter, and the reason why it doesn't matter is because the message within the phrase is a very positive and worthwhile message, and therefore worthy of being focussed on. I would rather focus on the message of the phrase than some technical nitpicky detail which detracts from the point being made. I really don't care that it's not always the case because there is some very good advice contained within that phrase. So, in an everyday, common sense way, if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger. And a stitch in time might save 10 rather than 9, but the point being made is far more important than the details.
Raliegh Marsden wrote:Some of you are getting confused. You somehow think that I believe in allowing kids to be abused. I don't. What I do believe however is that there's a difference between what you might call every day treatment, ie a good spanking here and there, a clip round the ear 'ole as we say in the UK, and a bit of shouting, and maybe the occasial shake.....and serious stuff like constant beatings and aggressive nastiness and so on. Do I believe that it's ok to spank kids from time to time if nec? Absolutely, yes I do. No problem with that whatsoever. But I don't class that as abuse, it's just normal.
So, if you put aside the serious stuff (which does deserve intervention) and focus on the normal stuff, then "if it don't kill ya, it makes you stronger" definitely applies. And if I had kids I'd command respect. How? In every possible way that doesn't involve physical punishment...with the option of using it if it becomes necessary. And if it was necessary, I'd do it anywhere, anytime.
But, we're not just talking about that, we're talking about "if it don't kill ya, it makes you stronger" in general.
Raliegh Marsden wrote:Ok paula, here's my reponse :
"If doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger", is a philosophy, an outlook. I have that outlook, so do many other people. It works for us. If you don't have that outlook, you don't benefit from it. If you choose to see things in a certain way, you'll get what you see. In the meantime, there are many people who choose to have a positive philosophy, and they benefit from it. They wouldn't have it if they didn't. We're not talking about objective reality, we're talking outlook. If I have a bad day, I can turn it around by changing my outlook, which affecs my thoughts, emotions, and actions. If you can't do that, maybe you should learn to do it. You can either waste your time rationalizing, or you can change your outlook.
So, if you put aside the serious stuff
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Raliegh Marsden wrote:Ok paula, here's my reponse :
"If doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger", is a philosophy, an outlook.
I have that outlook, so do many other people.
It works for us. If you don't have that outlook, you don't benefit from it.
If you choose to see things in a certain way, you'll get what you see.
In the meantime, there are many people who choose to have a positive philosophy, and they benefit from it.
They wouldn't have it if they didn't.
We're not talking about objective reality, we're talking outlook.
If I have a bad day, I can turn it around by changing my outlook, which affecs my thoughts, emotions, and actions.
If you can't do that, maybe you should learn to do it. You can either waste your time rationalizing, or you can change your outlook.
They wouldn't have it if they didn't.
If I have a bad day, I can turn it around by changing my outlook, which affecs my thoughts, emotions, and actions.
"If doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger"
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