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Rachel Bronwyn wrote:It's the same. What's bizarre is in some regards the atheist community is far more enlightened, often pertaining to social issues but is completely unaware of how their heteronormativity is affecting women. I agree with nunnington that the limitations imposed on women are the product of our most unconscious and inaccessible fears and predjudices. They're much harder to examine and challenge because people are so unaware of them. Meanwhile, the very people who make individuals like myself feel uncomfortable are challenging the limitations and championing the rights of other minorities and historically oppressed groups. It's frustrating as hell and extremely hurtful.
HughMcB wrote:
Actually yes, if being hit in the face counts as physical assault (which I'm pretty sure it does) and if politely saying "sorry I'm not interested" is counted as doing fuck all. In that case my statement is wholly correct. On more than one occasion.
Rachel Bronwyn wrote:It's that he came marching back to Pharyngula to reestablish his rightness that suprised me. I would have thought he'd not waste his time talking at people he knows are wrong. He sure is determined to demonstrate what a silly girl Watson is and how nothing he said was insensitive though.
thanks. Will comment later if I have any questions/remarks.Valden wrote:Unfortunately, I couldn't find an exact definition on what casual sexism is. But here's a few articles relating to it, if that helps any. Casual sexism is nothing but misogyny and It's time to challenge casual sexism
In the blog linked to in this thread, there's a talk about the man crossing the street when walking at each other. I don't understand this. Is it not sexist to expect the man to be weary about every contact he has with a woman because it might be perceived as threatening?
I don't expect men to be "weary about every contact." I do however expect them to know that we women don't all appreciate what may be perceived as sexist remarks and objectification. (Cat-calling is an example of what not to do. Ever.) How is wanting to be treated with respect and dignity sexist?
Charlou wrote:
A few thoughts ...
A woman may feel trapped within the confines of an elevator simply because the man is bigger/stronger and physically capable of preventing her from pressing a button and getting off.
The assumption that the man may have ill intentions simply because he's male is perhaps an insult to men, particularly to an innocent man with only friendly intentions.
Some men do have ill intentions and do overpower women to carry their ill intentions out.
Many women are very aware of this, either through anecdote or personal experience, or both. Many women are wary because of this.
It's a pragmatic position to be defensive. Pragmatic. Not morally right or wrong, just a practical response to what one knows about reality.
rJD wrote:Dawkins dropped a bollock here, another example of his tendency to be "tone deaf". Watson was perfectly justified to say that being approached by a stranger in a lift at 4am was unsettling, and asking people to be a bit more sensitive, which is all she did. For Dawkins to mock her the way he did was totally unnecessary and out of proportion to what she'd actually said, and I don't blame Watson for being pissed off with it, and with him, and reacting to it.
Doubtdispelled wrote:Where did I say that?MattHunX wrote:As if the viewpoint of a majority, automatically makes it valid/right. Please...
How do you know you lack empathy, Matt?
Here's another man's take on this, for those who still don't get it. Women in Elevators: A Man To Man Talk For The Menz
Valden wrote:And all she did was make a video about it, explaining to guys all around how it's not a very good idea to do what he did. And touching on the subject that as atheists, we all need to be more aware of casual sexism.
rJD wrote:
Yep, done the same myself. I'm a big softy and people who know me would find the idea of me being threatening as laughable, but, to people who don't know me... well, I'm hefty enough and I have a 'skinhead' cut. I did once catch up to a female colleague walking in the street from work and she practically had kittens as I overtook her before she realised it wasn't a dangerous stranger - and that was in the middle of a city centre full of people.
Given that women (and men, too, for that matter) do have reasonable cause to be apprehensive of men they don't know, it's just a question of good manners to not unnecessarily spook people.
Valden wrote:
Unfortunately, I couldn't find an exact definition on what casual sexism is. But here's a few articles relating to it, if that helps any. Casual sexism is nothing but misogyny and It's time to challenge casual sexism
Dawn wrote:I think RD's comments show a remarkable lack of emotional intelligence.
Dawn wrote:I think RD's comments show a remarkable lack of emotional intelligence.
talkietoaster wrote:Just a quick question, how would it reflect the women if she didn't find it weird and agreed to go with him?
HughMcB wrote:I wouldn't exactly call that a relationship. More being hit on, followed by being hit on.
virphen wrote:MattHunX wrote:
On the other-hand, he also mentioned inviting her up to his room for coffee. Now, I'm not sure how popular this whole "coffee=sex" substitution is, but surely she suspected as much, otherwise, if they guy really just wanted a coffee with her (doubtful) she really had nothing to be concerned about, not immediately, anyway.
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