Mick wrote:I once knew a guy who wanted to marry his own mother.
I don't believe you.
But I did know a Catholic nun once who insisted she was in a polygamous marriage with a deity. (true story)
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Mick wrote:I once knew a guy who wanted to marry his own mother.
Bribase wrote:Before the thread dissolves into another argument for how same-sex marriage will destroy the fabric of society and that certain parties' intolerance ought to be tolerated I would like to broaden the OP's topic, I feel that it is actually worth addressing.
Homophobia, in the etymological sense is the excessive or irrational fear of homosexuals. Of course the common parlance encompasses a much broader notion of the political and social regard for homosexuals but I would like to get to grips with the actual origin of the term. Namely because I self identify as being somewhat homophobic.
I would like to qualify that I petition for, protest with and argue in favour of gay rights. I have considered the arguments for gay marriage and have arrived at the position that there is no good reason to disallow equal rights for homosexuals in that regard. I have taken a look at the studies of children adopted to gay parents and while I think that such studies ought to be tentative, there is no reason to disallow such adoptions to go ahead. But regardless, in a very visceral sense I remain a homophobe.
I have homosexuals in my family, a handful of homosexual friends, I live in a very gay friendly city, the way I am with my closer male friends could even be considered a little too intimate to others but there is something about being gay that toubles me.
I'm certainly not here to provide answers but the talking points would be whether it is:
a) Attributable to outright xenophobia. Most people are a certain way, people who act otherwise are strange/scary.
b) Psycho-sexual. The "hierachical" notion of the fucker and the fucked is still very prevalent. Is it a fear of people who are able to fuck (and therefore efeminate) you?
c) Hygiene. Are we still dealing with the idea that bumholes are dirty? That it's an orifice that people have not come to grips with? It is an erogenous zone for many heterosexuals but does it remain a taboo for others?
This is by far not a complete list.
I would love to see a discussion of the psychology of homophobia, largely because I think it's a genuine thing. Or at least a discussion of why the forum members mostly identify as straight and what their feelings are regarding homosexuality and where they report on the kinsey scale.
Mick wrote:I once knew a guy who wanted to marry his own mother. Why not, eh, fellas?
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scott1328 wrote:I think in this modern era, homophobia finds its basis in the fear of the same sex attraction one might find in oneself and the concomitant fear of being deemed homosexual by others.
Heterosexism, although sometimes considered a synonym of homphobia, is useful as a term to describe the relegation of non-heterosexual people to second class status. An example being Mick's pronouncements.
scott1328 wrote:Before Mick's derail, I offered up the following, but I think it got lost in the derailscott1328 wrote:I think in this modern era, homophobia finds its basis in the fear of the same sex attraction one might find in oneself and the concomitant fear of being deemed homosexual by others.
Heterosexism, although sometimes considered a synonym of homphobia, is useful as a term to describe the relegation of non-heterosexual people to second class status. An example being Mick's pronouncements.
Anyone care to comment
Nicko wrote:Teuton wrote:* Fone, Byrne. Homophobia: A History. New York: Picador, 2001.
* The Surprising History of Homosexuality and Homophobia
Interesting links as always Teuton. To which I would add this speech by John Boswell. His book, Christianity, Social Tolerance and Homosexuality, (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1980) expands greatly upon this idea.
homosexuality was present in Africa from at least the earliest of European contact, and without much doubt, from long before. It wasn't just central Africa, either. While European proprieties made such graphic description of African homosexualities uncommon in their descriptions of Africa, there are enough references to it to know that it was indeed present, and even used as a justification for considering African cultures primitive enough to justify slavery.
As crusade after crusade failed to permanently dislodge the Muslims from the holy land, Muslims became a favorite target of propaganda, including anti-gay propaganda. William of Ada wrote:
"According to the religion of the Saracens [Muslims], any sexual act whatever is not only allowed but approved and encouraged, so that in addition to innumerable prostitutes, they have effeminate men in great number who shave their beards, paint their faces, put on women's clothing, wear bracelets on their arms and legs and gold necklaces around their necks as women do, and adorn their chests with jewels. Thus selling themselves into sin, they degrade and expose thier bodies; "men working that which is unseemly" they receive "in themselves" the recompense of their sin and error. The Saracens, oblivious of human dignity, freely resort to these effeminates or live with them as among us men and women live together openly."
The reaction of Islam to this kind of propaganda, was, of course, repression of its own. To prove the Christians wrong, Islam came to a repressive stance of its own, eventually outdoing even Christianity in its repression of homosexuality.
kiore wrote:I have some experience working with people who had recently been hunter-gathers (within living memory) in Northern Australia and interviewed many in regard to sexual health issues particularly about sexually transmitted infections. For some groups missionaries had only arrived in the 1960's so I was able to chat with adults who could talk about pre missionary days. This stuff is purely anecdotal and the context was sexual health primarily rather than orientation but it was quite interesting the attitudes that continually cropped up.. Older people were scandalized by what they saw as 'foreign culture' but remained extremely tolerant of family members orientation no matter what it was. MTM sex was only scandalous to younger people, older people who were not heavily xtianized (and many that technically were) had no issues with this but their concern was focused on social structures, people could have sex with who they liked but marriages should still occur and children be born, really the form of the institution needed to be maintained
Beatsong wrote:
I find that extremely interesting because it's so similar to what we were discussing earlier re. the ancient greeks and Romans. ie, nobody really cared that much who you screwed, as long as somewhere along the line you had a kin-approved marriage and made a few babies. They had a strong sense of conformity about overall lifestyle structure, but probably less than many later societies about what people did with their bits.
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Beatsong wrote:kiore wrote:I have some experience working with people who had recently been hunter-gathers (within living memory) in Northern Australia and interviewed many in regard to sexual health issues particularly about sexually transmitted infections. For some groups missionaries had only arrived in the 1960's so I was able to chat with adults who could talk about pre missionary days. This stuff is purely anecdotal and the context was sexual health primarily rather than orientation but it was quite interesting the attitudes that continually cropped up.. Older people were scandalized by what they saw as 'foreign culture' but remained extremely tolerant of family members orientation no matter what it was. MTM sex was only scandalous to younger people, older people who were not heavily xtianized (and many that technically were) had no issues with this but their concern was focused on social structures, people could have sex with who they liked but marriages should still occur and children be born, really the form of the institution needed to be maintained
I find that extremely interesting because it's so similar to what we were discussing earlier re. the ancient greeks and Romans. ie, nobody really cared that much who you screwed, as long as somewhere along the line you had a kin-approved marriage and made a few babies. They had a strong sense of conformity about overall lifestyle structure, but probably less than many later societies about what people did with their bits.
We of course - most people even now - take for granted the strong link between marriage, love, sexual monogamy and orientation. In a way that makes it a much more "either-or" proposition. You either buy into the whole thing, or if you feel the need to and are brave and determined enough, you reject the whole thing and "be" gay - live an entirely "gay life", as opposed to just doing some gay things.
Animavore wrote:Hell I cringe when I see heterosexual people kiss.
Animavore wrote:Hell I cringe when I see heterosexual people kiss.
Thomas Eshuis wrote:
It actually brings a smile to my face, if I see a couple kiss. As long as it's romantically and not overtly sexual.
Animavore wrote:
I just realised that comment might make it sound like I'm gay. I'm not. I just think people should get a room!
Thomas Eshuis wrote:
Not liking PDAs doesn't make you sound like you're gay, not unless the listener is rather unintelligent.
There are people on all parts of the spectrum who don't like PDAs, regardless of the genders involved.
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