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He's goes on about how "boys are crap" and "girls are better"
Dory wrote:Hey gang. I was referenced here from Rationalia whereas my feedback may be of some use since I am a transsexual myself.
First off, hats off to Beatsong...incredible open reaction, but this is Rational Skepticism, little wonder as we're largely Wesome people here.
What can be said...sounds like a lovely kid. Also by my intuition he's heading towards womanhood. I mean, com'on:He's goes on about how "boys are crap" and "girls are better"
Good enough clue for me.
Beatsong wrote:
Are ordinary young children particularly aware of being boys or girls? I don't think they are until their parents start choosing clothes for them and doing their hair.
Scot Dutchy wrote:Here is a couple of sites that can give good information.
http://www.gires.org.uk/index.php
http://www.depend.org.uk/links.html
I was exactly the same but being born in the '40's I was told to behave myself. I never really discovered my gender until I was 40+. I am 85% female in a man's body. I have to live with it as transgendering is not on at that age.
It is worth thinking about. I very happy to hear that you are very open about it and give him all the freedom he desires.
(I cant edit the first one but url is in quotes by accident)
But one thing I'm wondering about, which you may be able to enlighten me about, is: What does it mean to know that one "is" a certain gender?
Dory wrote:Hey gang. I was referenced here from Rationalia whereas my feedback may be of some use since I am a transsexual myself.
First off, hats off to Beatsong...incredible open reaction, but this is Rational Skepticism, little wonder as we're largely Wesome people here.
What can be said...sounds like a lovely kid. Also by my intuition he's heading towards womanhood. I mean, com'on:He's goes on about how "boys are crap" and "girls are better"
Good enough clue for me.
I became so happy post-transition, and was so heavily depressed pre-transition. My story is rather unique though and I won't retell it now. I'll just say I transformed 6 months ago against my parents wish, and yes that's me in the avatar. Things would've been a lot easier if I had loving understanding parents. Society was totally fine. In fact guys hit on me faster than I can reject them.
One of my regrets is that I suppressed it all my life and didn't start my transition earlier. I felt like I lost 23 years of my life! Although I didn't really lose them, I just experienced them in a way that felt far less comfortable to me.
And yes, you can love girls and still be a male-to-female. I've met male-to-female with pussies and male-to-female with cocks that love girls. I also met male-to-female with cocks and male to female with pussies that love just guys. I also met many bisexuals among them. All is fair in this fucked up shit we call life
Stephen Colbert wrote:Now, like all great theologies, Bill [O'Reilly]'s can be boiled down to one sentence - 'There must be a god, because I don't know how things work.'
z8000783 wrote:A few more thoughts and opinions.
10 is certainly too young to be thinking about being gay or straight however many gays will say they knew their preference from an early age...
tattuchu wrote:z8000783 wrote:A few more thoughts and opinions.
10 is certainly too young to be thinking about being gay or straight however many gays will say they knew their preference from an early age...
I didn't identify myself as gay when I was younger, and I still don't. I don't fit comfortably into that category. But I knew from a very early age, as early as I can remember actually, that I liked other boys in a way that was not the norm. I knew in swimming lessons, for instance, that I had to be careful not to let my eyes linger on the others in the changing room, lest I be found out. I was maybe eight at the time. And I knew I was never going to like girls the way I was supposed to like them.
Don't straight people know, even before puberty kicks in, that they are or are going to be attracted to the opposite gender
Paula1 wrote:
It's difficult to know if you really 'knew' when you were that young or if you were just doing what was expected of you. All round you, in real life, on TV, in magazines, there were men and women relationships, your parents, if you have both at home were male/female (remember it would have been the mid 70's, homosexuality would simply not have been a topic discussed in my household and never portrayed on prime time TV). Adults would tease about a boy friend being a boyfriend etc
When I hear about gay people having felt that they were attracted to the same sex at a young age may mean that I was really experiencing the same as a heterosexual but it's hard to tell
tattuchu wrote:Paula1 wrote:
It's difficult to know if you really 'knew' when you were that young or if you were just doing what was expected of you. All round you, in real life, on TV, in magazines, there were men and women relationships, your parents, if you have both at home were male/female (remember it would have been the mid 70's, homosexuality would simply not have been a topic discussed in my household and never portrayed on prime time TV). Adults would tease about a boy friend being a boyfriend etc
When I hear about gay people having felt that they were attracted to the same sex at a young age may mean that I was really experiencing the same as a heterosexual but it's hard to tell
Of course I wouldn't have known how to put it into words at a young age. But I knew I wasn't "normal." I knew what was expected of me was never going to happen. I remember my grandmother's boyfriend asking me when I was about 12 or 13, "So, do you like girls yet?" I told him no. Pretty firmly, no. It felt good to be honest, but I knew I wouldn't be able to get away with an answer like that for much longer without arousing suspicion. Indeed, he laughed my response off with, "Oh, you will. Pretty soon, you will." But I knew I wouldn't, that I never would. Not like I was meant to, leastways.
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