Nicko wrote:PCS wrote:... I think what I called the "being suited up effect" has a big part to play in this. Must be a subconscious thing that what looks cleaner, tidier and to some extent prettier/handsomer will give us some kind of comfort.
Not necessarily. There's always context.
Over a decade ago I was doing a Beverage and Gaming course that I had to show up in a shirt and tie to. I teamed it with a long tweed coat that had once belonged to my gradfather. One afternoon after class, I decided to swing past a certain house wherein dwelt certain people who sold certain plant-based recreational products. They let me in laughing and told me how the household had collectively shat themselves when I'd walked up the front path. Apparently the ensemble I had chosen looked rather "offical".
That is a different issue, I was talking about random niceties.
First of all lets differentiate the abuse/harassment from the random niceties and "good days"!. I am not under any circumstance condoning sexual harassment in any way. The two guys that followed her are band right out of order. EDIT: So are the many "dayms!" and "Yo hot"!!
I was addressing the specific claim that people would be less likely to say "good day" if she was fat or a man or "not white" and that "It's got a LOT to do with her being sexually attractive to a lot of people". The latter quote on the
obvious harassment is patently true. You wouldn't sexually harass someone you didn't find sexually attractive. I disagree that the "good days" or random niceties are sexually motivated most of the time and offered and example. I get random "good mornings" and "Isn't the weather lovely this morning, hope it lasts" from unknown people all the time and I am not a voluptuous white blonde woman.
Your experience of looking rather "official" to someone that may look out for official people because of the nature of his chosen trade is irrelevant to my "if you look like you would be nice (nothing to do with sexuality), you will get treated nicely" point. It works both ways. A staggering, scruffy unkept man will just make mothers' hold on their childrens arm firmer. Everyone makes subconscious irrational assumptions of people based on their looks.
To assume all men have a constant hardon and everything they do is sexually motivated to the extent that they only greet and say "good day" to hot white women is just not true and very unfair.
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