Thommo wrote:I don't really know what to make of this, I counted 23 separate people making comments in the video (out of how many tens of thousands of people she would walk past in 10 hours, I can't say). Clearly some of them were well out of line, the two guys who basically followed her down the street are certainly harassing and possibly to a criminal level and I think it's an eye opener to witness that people actually behave like that. On the other hand it's hard to see how some guy sitting outside a news stand saying "have a nice day!" qualifies as harassment - and that's apparently among the top 20 or so incidents of harassment, since this charity selected it and chose to edit it in.
You need to hang out with young men on the streets more, Thommo. Technically, no, "Have a nice day" isn't harassment, especially since it's not sustained (unlike those guys that fucking followed her around). What's really unnerving is the staring. It's bizarre to be with a group of guys and have them swing their heads around like a goddamn lighthouse looking for a woman to ogle. Then they ask "How are you?" and when she doesn't answer they say "Oh well, fuck you too then!" sometimes with or without a "Bitch". Typically they don't try to talk to guys, except when trying to sell something.
I know this because this is precisely how some of my work-friends act. It's amazing. They legitimately see this as an appropriate thing to do. It gets even worse on clubbing nights. Incidentally, it was those sorts of actions that made me restrict my contact with them to work, bars and barbecues, not clubs.
This doesn't mean that those guys saying "Hello" or variations thereof are instances of harassment (I don't think they are), but it's not just being friendly to be friendly. There's an ulterior motive there, and it's made explicit one the guys with less impulse control start following her. As others have said, it can certainly feel like harassment, even if there are multiple unique people saying something only once.